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WTF Monday... Because I need it!
My STBXH and I have been seperated since Oct 2010.
We were married just under 4 years. The house was only in my name (he moved in with me and my kids). We had no joint accounts, no kids, no cars.... NOTHING was shared.
So here we are, over a year later and he still wont sign the papers. He has been asking for stupd stuff like shelves in the basement, which I offered to pay him for, half of a pile of lumber we bought to finish the basement, and the washer or the dryer (I had them when he moved in). The best part is that he lives in his parents basement so he really doesnt need any of it! His demands change all of the time so I never know what he will ask for next. We have had 2 trial dates but his lawyer "called in sick" and canceled both of them. I finally got word that we got a new trial set. FOR APRIL OF NEXT YEAR!!!!
I'm so sick of this. I could seriously sit down and cry.
Re: WTF Monday... Because I need it!
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Wow. You definitely deserve to vent. That suuuuuucks.
I'm sorry
I guess he hasnt realized that this will mean that we have to file taxes as "married but seperate" again this year. For me, it's not a big deal. BUT last year he claimed a bunch of things that he shouldnt have. Fortunately, if he is audited, I have the paperwork to show that it was all mine. He will get slapped with paying back the refund. I wish I knew someone in the IRS!
The problem is, the demands always change. I offered to pay for the shelves, but then he never followed up on it. He wanted some swords he left behind, so I drove them to his lawyers office. He mentioned the washer or dryer once, but then came up with some other stupid demand. I gave him free reign of the house and never asked to split anything that we had acquired during the marriage. So on paper, he is WAY ahead of me. Yes, I would give him anything he wanted if I KNEW it would end this. The problem is, he wants it all done "on his terms." Those were his exact words.
This is odd. So when your laywer presented your demands, he never responded with his demands in writing? Maybe the process works differently in your state.
I wasnt asking for anything. Just sign the papers and go away. He just simply won't sign. A few of his early demands were things that I simply would not bend on. IE: I paid the mortgage, his medical, 95% of the groceries, etc etc. He paid for cable and gas. He took out a loan to pay for new windows in the house in lieu of helping me with the mortgage. Well, he initally wanted me to repay him the money since he didnt "get to keep the windows". At one point he wanted my engagement ring back too. Those things were mentioned once, we denied them, and they havent been brought up again.
Believe me, if I knew what he TRULY wanted, I would give it to him. But I don't think he even knows.
That is bizarre. Does he even have a lawyer? I can't recommend them recommending he behave like this. I'm really sorry you have to go through it though. Can your lawyer schedule a mediation?
He does have a lawyer. Unfortunately they are a match made in heaven. She won't return my lawyers emails, or voicemails at all. He finally had to schedule this next court date.
Any lawyer in their right mind would tell him how stupid this all is. Not his.
This sounds like my STBX. He didn't want to pay the credit card he took out for half of the cost of the gutters on the house because he doesn't live there anymore. Never mind that it was my salary that paid for everything for 2 years, including his bills. I pointed out that in our separation agreement he agreed to split ALL debt 50/50. I'm not splitting the mortgage because I'm staying there, but he wanted those new gutters then he can pay for half of them whether he's there or not.
Good luck!
You can report him to the IRS yourself. call the 1800 number and/or go to a local office to meet with an agent..
p.s.
I work as one of there tax agents... he will get hit with some serious penalties that can be stacked and be as high as 75% of the refund that he received... good luck