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Intro and question

So I think I may have done an intro way back, but then kind of went into lurker mode.  There's been a few things I've wanted to comment on, but didn't want to just start commenting and people be like who is this chick :)

I've been divorced for about almost two years now.  It was a pretty easy divorce. No children, I was able to refinance the house in my name, move on and we're done! 

Now I'm where some of you ladies are...at the dating stage.  And how I hate it!!!  I was doing the online dating thing for a bit but hid my profile because it's all the same guys and nothing was coming from it! I have a single girl friend that we are trying to get out and do more things (meet up groups, etc) to just try and meet new people and find some interests.

About nine months ago met a guy for drinks.  We had a good time but never really made plans to get together again and just stopped talking/texting. I sign back up for POF, he's on there, sends me a message, we email back and forth, exchange phone numbers again.  That was about a month ago and on Saturday he sends me a text.  Asks how I'm doing, etc.  We talk about how he's going to a concert that night.  He asks if I'm seeing anyone.  I say no.  He asks when he can take me out.  I respond back with when do you want to take me out.  He says answering a question with a question, huh.  I say I'm sure we can figure out a time we can get together.  He says ok.  That was it for Saturday night.  Yesterday afternoon, I send him a text that asks how the concert was...and I haven't heard back.

One of the guys at work told me I shouldn't have sent that text on Sunday.  It was a stage five clinger move.  What do you guys think? Should I have not sent that text?

*The only way to dream is big*

Re: Intro and question

  • Welcome to the board :)

    Definitely not Stage 5 clinger (I've got one of those) but if he really wanted to take you out, he would have asked and made plans already.  I can't stand guys who are "all talk" and don't actually ask you out.  If you don't hear from him this week, move on!  You deserve better!

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    About nine months ago met a guy for drinks.  We had a good time but never really made plans to get together again and just stopped talking/texting. I sign back up for POF, he's on there, sends me a message, we email back and forth, exchange phone numbers again.  That was about a month ago and on Saturday he sends me a text.  Asks how I'm doing, etc.  We talk about how he's going to a concert that night.  He asks if I'm seeing anyone.  I say no.  He asks when he can take me out.  I respond back with when do you want to take me out.  He says answering a question with a question, huh.  I say I'm sure we can figure out a time we can get together.  He says ok.  That was it for Saturday night.  Yesterday afternoon, I send him a text that asks how the concert was...and I haven't heard back.

    One of the guys at work told me I shouldn't have sent that text on Sunday.  It was a stage five clinger move.  What do you guys think? Should I have not sent that text?

    Meh. Whether or not you sent that text is irrelevant.

    Adding together the fact that he wasn't interested enough to keep seeing you nine months ago AND the fact that he let that weird text conversation die without actually ASKING YOU OUT, you know, like an adult...?

    I would say he's either not that into you, or he is trying to keep you around as a just-in-case.

    Either way, lame. Move on to someone with clear interest.

    Oh and welcome!

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  • Welcome!

     

    I agree, that it was lame. 

     

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  • Yes, he's lame... if he really wanted to see you and ask you out, he would have made plans with you immediately. I hate guys that do that. I just had one send me a text today... we'd try to make plans to hang out, but something would come up. He's fall off the face of the earth, then a month or two later, some random text asking how I was doing or telling me about a bar that had good beer specials. Sorry! A real man has stepped up to the plate :)

    Welcome, good luck and I'm sure a great guy will come around at just the right moment!

  • Not a clinger move at all but I wouldn't put anymore thought into him.  He sounds like a flake. 
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