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Life's Little Decisions WWYD?
My BFF in NZ has offered my a job working in his company in Christchurch. He is Desperate for me to come home and work for him, and although wages in NZ are pretty low, I should be able to make it work. Plus, my Sister is in NZ from Jan to April with her children, as she makes the move from Indonesia to Mongolia for her Husbands job. I could count the number of times I have seen her in the last 4 years on one hand, but apart from that we are still very close although I haven't met her second child as yet. Plus I miss hanging out with my Parents and friends.
So I am Thinking about chucking in my job here, and heading home (probably without DH) for around the same time my sister is home.
My work here is good money, and I LOVE the variety, and I LOVE working with my boss, she is amazing. However I do struggle with some of my workmates, they are just so different from myself, and recently I have had quite a bit of heartache over not being able to bond with them as well as they bond with each other. My boss would be devastated if I left, and my BFF with be devastated if I turned him down. I have a few friends here, but have found it hard to get in with any particular group.
I won't find anywhere to live in either city, so that's not really an issue. And I should be able to make it work financially for a short time, and I can always come back...Newcastle (where I live now) is a beautiful beach city, Christchurch is still recovering from the earthquake.
WWYD, stay for the money, or go for the friends and family?
Sorry, I always seem to write an Essay!!!
Re: Life's Little Decisions WWYD?
To recap, you'd be moving away from DH, quitting a job you love, and making less money. And the place you'd be moving to is recovering from an earthquake? I wouldn't even consider making the move.
I love my parents and sister more than life itself but I'd much much rather see them only once a year than live apart from DH (who is my family). It sounds like life is good in Newcastle, apart from some difficult coworkers. I'd make sure to get your DH's honest opinion on this one!
Do the creep.
DH isn't too concerned, four months apart in the big scheme of things doesn't bother us too much. He doesn't really know what he wants to do either, whether he would come or stay...or take a work contract in the middle of nowhere for a little bit, somewhere were I couldn't or wouldn't go.
It would make it easier if he Did have a firm opinon. Instead he is always just, " yeah, if you want to do whatever then it's fine by me".
My biggest regret in life is not spending enough time with my Grandparents etc, and I don't want something to happen and have the same regret about my Sister or Parents...oh I don't know, I don't know what I want to go. Go on holiday and never come back!!