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Mad at H....
Got home from work yesterday and H's friend was over. This friend is the most critical, pessimistic, arrogant, a-hole that I've ever known. He criticizes everything under the sun and questions everything else.
Anyway, we were talking about food and how he only eats organic and non-processed products, telling us we eat sh!t. We buy some organic products, but don't beat ourselves up over the other things that we buy. He starts calling my ice cubes "stink bombs" because we make them from tap water, he uses bottled to make his. I looked at him and asked him if he still smokes cigarettes and he said that he does--I said to him that when he quits smoking maybe he can sit here and criticize what I feed my family and until then I pretty much said stfu. And that he is f'ing rude...
The kicker...H said that I was wrong for saying anything at all and he's been pissed at me since. My take on this is if you come into my home and criticize me you better believe that I will speak up.
Also, this is a person that has fed his step son fast food about 3-4 nights a week. They eat at China buffet's, the cheap ones. WTF?
Re: Mad at H....
LMAO at "stink bombs."
The friend sounds like a jerk. I don't think you were really in the wrong to call him out on being a hypocrite, but since your husband seems to like the guy, I'd try to avoid him in the future and not engage with his idiocy.
I'd have called him on his hypocritical shyt.
Its really rude to go over to another person's house and openly criticize the way they do things. That guy is a guest in your home and even if he was family, that kind of shyt should be kept to yourself.
I'm surprised your H is ok with the criticism.
My H isn't a very good communicator...goes from good mood to bad within seconds. Usually won't tell me why he is upset with me.
He has on occasion told me things that his douche friend says and does and will also say that someday he'll mess with the wrong person and get his @$$ kicked. He has argued with store clerks to the point of being told by managers to leave or the police will be called. He listens to some radio show that I call conspiracy radio-he thinks big brother is out to poison us, etc. He is all kinds of f'ed up in the head.
I'm really upset with H and have a changed outlook on our relationship.
Sounds like he just did;)
This is your problem, not his dovche friend.
How long have you been together? Have you been to counseling?
17 years, but married for 5 1/2 years. No counseling, but I am looking for one for myself. I have some decisions to make and need a neutral person to help me figure them out.
LMAO - love it!
I would've told the guy off too, likely earlier than you did. That being said, BF wouldn't bring someone over that acts like that. Does YH act like that too? It's just not making sense to me for him to be mad at you for this. I get that you should be nice to guests in your home but there is a limit to that.
He only comes over once a month or so now. He used to come over more often, but he probably sensed my anger with him. He thinks that I'm a *** anyway...I stand up to my husband and he is one that thinks that man wears the pants....
H knows exactly how pissed off I am and knows that I'd rather he go visit jerkbag in his own domain.