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A post on ML. Be sure to check her bio.
Hurtful comments & Regressing, keg parties? really?
Where do you draw the line when the husband makes hurtful comments?
My husband seems to have hit a regression, thinking he is still in his partying days. For the past two-three weeks I feel like I've been living in a frat house, keg party included. Don't get me wrong, I like to host, but not three parties in two days (plus house guests where I met his BFFs girlfriend for the first time.) This is all recent, mind you. It wasn't like this when we dated or were getting married.
Also, he is a pilot so gone 18 days out of the month (straight.) He has been making some very hurtful comments, such as last night he told his friends that came over to watch football "I didn't marry a wife" and went on to talk about how he was doing all the household chores while he has been home (he doesn't have anything else to do while home) Also while talking to pilot friends he told them that flying was always going to be first for him. I knew this when we got married so I forfeit my right to get upset. The hurtful thing was when his tenure pilot buddy told him, "You have to respect and love that lady, you put flying above her and she will walk out on you" my uhsband started ARGUING with him about how flying is more important.
I have brought this up to him saying it makes me feel small and degraded. It's the reason I've lost so much confidence and worry about everything anymore (which also frustrates him) and he says I'm overreacting.
I don't think I am and believe there has to be a line somewhere. Finally today I told him that if I was going to second to something, don't be surprised if one day he becomes second to another man.
Advice?
Re: A post on ML. Be sure to check her bio.
She sounds incredibly wrapped up in the fact that she married a pilot. Status symbol? I'd be willing to guess she wanted to say her husband was a pilot, but was not on board with everything else.
It is also concerning that she is soooo wrapped up in being married to him and thinks she needs "protectors."
That's just sad.
She looks like she's eating his face in the one picture. I couldn't look away.
Where did she mention he was a pilot? Must've missed it.
I wanted you to weigh in on touching nakeds with a wife who refuses to bleach/maintain/shave/otherwise take charge of a full beard and moustache.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
WHERE?!
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/60213385.aspx
boringly it's not an actual couple's situation, but I was wondering how this fit in with your rules about how much your spouse is allowed to let things go before you don't want to touch the nakes with them anymore.
The post is kind of assy.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!