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comments, please! relationship/communication skills workshop for couples
i know i've vented here (plenty of times, :P ) about DH, but i can honestly say that he is always full of wonderful advice concerning communication and relationships. he just doesn't always follow it himself (therapist, heal theyself - not).
his advice has always been sought after by friends and family who are experiencing challenges in their relationships - whether they are romantic, familial or platonic friendships. and it's always spot on. he has finally decided to use his knowledge, sympathetic ear, and experience to help others in a more structured way.
he's designing a multi-part workshop for couples, similar to PAIRS but a much shorter series (4-5 weeks). topics will include communication skills, fair fighting, intimacy and much more. he envisions this as appropriate for couples at any stage of their relationship.
i thought i'd post here to see what thoughts you ladies had.
would you ever consider taking part in such a workshop?
if so, what topics would you like to see covered?
how much would you be willing to pay for this 4-5week workshop?
any other comments?
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Re: comments, please! relationship/communication skills workshop for couples
Sounds great. Please post the event here when he nails down specifics. I will definitely consider going. Topics mentions sound right on. Especially how to fight fair, fight under pressure, etc.
I'd be willing to pay $150/couple.
thanks for your comments. he's still developing the series, so probably won't be ready to offer it for another couple months. i told him i'd post here to see if the board had ideas or thoughts that he hadn't considered (and also to gauge an appropriate fee).
i probably won't post here when he is ready to offer it, b/c it would be a violation of TOS of the board (i'm just soliciting feedback on the workshop now, not asking people to sign up, nest gods). but if you'd like to KIT with me, i'll gladly let you know when he is ready. you can email me at Lindsey AT sunflowershealingandwellness DOT com
same here
For us, we're in the "are we ready for a kid?" stage - and I think a lot of people struggle with the same thing - so that would be something to talk about. I know every situation is different, but since it's a group workshop, people could share their experiences and offer support, ykwim?
If I were in the market for something like this, i'd probably pay $150 like pp said.
We make the rockin' world go 'round.
thanks Cheeky. see above response to Tulip!
thanks for the suggestions, too, SS and chia
Good one! Esp. dealing with in-laws!
I would be interested in something like this for sure - I could probably even talk DH into it, though in a million years he wouldn't go more than maaaaybe 1-2 times. Plus getting a babysitter. He'd think of a million reasons not to do it if it was a 5 or more session committment. He'd also be nervous about airing his dirty laundry in front of strangers.
thanks! babysitters are so darn expensive! and who wouldn't want to spend babysitting money doing something fun!
i think the workshop would be more fun than therapy-like (he is not a licensed therapist), but learning these skills at the same time. but assuaging these fears is definitely something he'll need to think about.
We need help in the communication arena, so this sounds great.
The 4-5 weeks is a bit long for us though. I could make that commitment if I picked the day and time, but working in a group every Tuesday at 7 or whatever is too much commitment for us.
I like the PPs suggested topics, except we would be miserable in a "should we have a kid" discussion and we'd feel like we were wasting our time/money. Perhaps each week could be a different topic so you didn't necessarily go to (or pay) for all of them. Same thing with in-laws, to a lesser degree. That's not an issue for us, (LUCKY US!) so it wouldn't be worth it.
But man, fighting fair (or really, fighting help in general) would be nice.
I don't know how well a group setting would work, but I'd try it since our marriage is worth it.
ditto. we're in the child-free camp so "when/should we have a kid" discussions would be a waste for us too.
Maybe instead of "should we have kids?" the topic could be broader, like how to communicate and make decisions about major life events that will affect your family, whether it's having kids, moving, changing jobs, or whatever is applicable to the couple. If the sessions are supposed to be inclusive to a lot of people, then going broad is probably a good idea.
I agree that $150 sounds about right.
i would like to see something seperate on this topic alone, especially hearing from new parents (like no one told us to consider.....), parents of five year olds and parents of 10 year olds.
I should add... I wouldn't pay $150 for this, if not given by a "professional"...
Also, artslvr makes a good point about a babysitter, etc. Maybe you'd have better luck doing a one or two-time intensive weekend-day session.
thanks everyone for your great ideas, suggestions and other thoughts! very much appreciated!
I shared the topics you all listed above with him and he said that most are subtopics of bigger topics (i think i just read a pp say something like that, too).
no, DH is not a therapist. he is a PAIRS graduate, but that is the limit of his experience with professional training in this area. to be clear, his workshop will not be therapy, rather a teaching experience for communication skills. he is planning to become a life coach, but that won't be completed for another 18-24 months. pretty much everyone in his personal life that he advises in matters about relationships has told him he should do this (the workshop, life coaching, etc.), so he's finally doing it! i'm super proud of him for doing something other than what his dad wants him to do, so i'm supporting him in any way i can.
btw, PAIRS is a few thousand dollars! i was shocked when he told me how much he spent on it. granted it was much longer (i think it's 2hrs/week for 12 weeks? and it's led by certified PAIRS instructors --who are not necessarily licensed therapists or counselors). my bradley birth class was 2 hours for 12 weeks and only $350.
This. If I could sign up for just the sessions that affected me, I would be in. Like, the kid one isn't as relevant, but if he did one like PP suggested about outside influences aka ILs, I would DEFINITELY be interested. Depending on length of class, I'd probably pay $50/couple/class.
And did someone mention money management? Because the whole "I have more say/spending money/influence because I make more" argument is an issue for us sometimes, and I'd love to have some guidance about how to keep things fair - particularly when he DOES work 65+ hours a week, but I'm still an equal part of our household....