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So furious right now.
So I am probably a little irrationally cranky right now but we have just had new people move in next door, it didn't get off to a great start when the morning they moved in they started banging away putting furniture together at 4:30 in the morning (our walls join), but to top it off this morning they 'fogged'. Fogging here is when they smoke out an area with pesticides to get rid of mosquitoes and other pests, the thing is we have a really well managed pest control system that is done monthly and limited problems with pests, to the point that I have only ever seen one rat and no cockroaches. I am mostly cranky that they did this without telling us, because it is all airborne the smoke of course covered our house too, I didn't have time to get all of Otto's toys from the backyard or cover his sandpit, so they were all covered by this toxic smoke, let alone breathing it in.
WWYD? Should I say something? (once I have calmed down, right now I would look like a raging lunatic), or should I be passive aggressive and go through the compound management?
Re: So furious right now.
This sounds like a management issue to me. Someone needs to explain the compound policies to them more clearly, and emphasize that their choices can affect their neighbors.
Not smart on their part, they really need to work on being more considerate.
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This. I would try to be more polite with them and direct with the management. But I'm non-confrontational like that and wouldn't want to get off on such a bad foot with the neighbors.
I don't blame you at all for being upset, but I'm willing to bet that it did not even occur to them how fogging might impact you and your family. I would probably wait until I calmed down, then go over and introduce myself and politely say something about it. I'm sure if you calmly explain why you want notice before fogging again that they will be happy to comply.
As for the early morning furniture assembly, I would also be annoyed, but it is probably a one time thing. I usually pick my battles on things like that. The fogging would be far more important to me to complain about than the banging.
Whatever you decide to do, I hope it all works out for you. Hopefully you end up liking your neighbors eventually.
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I'd be annoyed too. As per PPs I'd wait until I was calm, introduce myself and ask for a quick heads-up the next time they decide to fog so you can get the toys out of the back yard.
I'd also talk to management to make sure they go over policies etc. with the new people.
As for 4:30 construction of furniture, that's just NOT cool! I'd leave it be though as they probably won't be doing that again.
Thanks for the replies, I haven't seen the neighbours yet so I haven't addressed it with them but I have managed to calm down since this morning.
Sometimes, because living here or anywhere overseas comes with its own sets of challenges, things that really wouldn't tip you over the edge at home seem to send you crazy elsewhere, I was the perfect example of that this morning, I have no reasoning why I was so mad, other than feeling upset about the no warning, at home I would have been annoyed but not furious. Luckily I had playgroup this morning and chatting away with other expat mum's always helps.
Oh my. I would be furious, too. I think I'd go to management.
ETA: AND to the neighbors after you cool down.
I'm terrible at confrontation so I'd probably just go to management. But I do think ignoring the furniture moving and picking your battles with the fogging is the best option. The moving would be a one-time thing but you have a right to move your stuff so it's not covered in horrible chemicals!
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After my last experience with inconsiderate neighbors I would now definitely go through management.
With my last neighbour I tried the polite way ....3 times - in the end after she still hadn't done anything to sort the issue i was beside myself and again pleaded with her to sort it - she flipped on me and told me to effing move.
after that living next to her was very awkward and I vouched I would never try and do the polite thing ever again as it came to bite me in the butt.
Good luck with it!