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Have you cried at work?
This is a spin-off of a post from the MM board. They seemed to think it was not ok.
In SW, I have cried several times. Some due to stress, a particularly heartwrenching case, and the death of a co-worker. In sw, it is pretty much socially acceptable unless you are causing a scene or it really is everyday drama kind od thing. We used to joke you're not a real sw until you've cried in your supervisor's office.
I also cried twice during waitressing jobs. One was over a mean boss, and one was over a seriously mean customer plus being overtired. It was in the back, not at the table.
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Re: Have you cried at work?
Many times. However I have always left my desk and cried in the bathroom.
It has always been some jerk customer that said something to me when I first started here. "You are such a horrible person" "You don't deserve to have a job" "Are you pregnant? Boy you sure look it" "You can go fcuk yourself" "You are scum and should die" and so on. (Some were much worse than this)
I have learned to grow a very thick skin here. And yes this is all from working at a newspaper.
Twice.
Once when they told me they were going to fire either Andy or I because we were marrying each other. And this was four days before our wedding.
And another time (actually this was the first time) when my Gyno office called me on my cell phone on a Friday afternoon while I was at work about an abnormal pap. The nurse said, "it looks like it might be cancer cells so we have to do a biopsy. But don't worry. See you in three weeks!"
Only once has a class been so bad they've made me cry. I've cried a few other times at work though, because of normal life stress or sad news, like babies dying. I guess it's somewhat socially acceptable to cry if you're a teacher. It kinda freaks the kids out, though.
When I was a waitress, I cried a lot.
This happened to me too! I actually missed the call, so the Dr. left a VM about pre-cancer cells and I was pretty much a sobbing mess at my desk.
I'm a crier. And the first to admit it.
I found out that my friend's (since I was 4) brother passed away suddenly from an undiagnosed heart problem and went into work less than 6 hours later.
I just couldn't hold it in anymore. But, my co-workers were very understanding and helped me through my day.
At my current job, the only time I've cried was a few weeks ago. I had a really nice patient who came in for a possible miscarriage, and I spent a lot of time and energy assuring her that it wasn't her fault and telling her she's not alone, etc. Then she found out her baby was just fine, and it was more than I could deal with, so I went into an empty patient room and cried because I was so sad for me.
At my previous job I cried out of sheer frustration and stress a few times, which was really embarrassing.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
Many times. Most of them were because of stupid arguments Chris and I had via gchat. Some other times were just because of the stress of the job getting the best of me.
The only other time it was really bad was those couple of days between our anatomy scan and our lvl2 ultrasound when I had no idea if Sami was going to be OK or not....
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Oh yeah. Not often, but it happens, usually out of frustration/burnout, but sometimes just because really shitttty things happen in this field. I'm with Mel, it's inevitable in this field.
ETA: if/when it happens, it's always behind the closed door of my office.
I agree that, for the most part, it is inappropriate.
That said, I'm a crier, and I've cried a few times at this job. Once, I was having a bad day, and one of our off-site people sent me a very passive-aggressive email that put me over the edge, and I cried. The other time I messed something up and felt badly about it. Another, my childhood dog was put down, and I cried at a few different intervals throughout the day.
I hate crying at work, though. I always go somewhere where I can be by myself, and do not emerge until I'm back under control.
I cried at this job the day Kirk got fired last year, 1 wk before Christmas.
At my old job at the public defender I cried more- like Mel and Neuner it was more frequent because emotions were high, especially during trial or disposition (kiddie sentencing).
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Dont you just hate that?? When I found out everything was fine I told the Dr. about what the nurse had said and I thought that if she was making those types of calls she should have a little more tact.
I think I've only cried once that I can remember.
I was 20 or 21 and working in an office, processing health insurance applications. I was a newer employee and this other girl was jealous of me because I could process more cases than her (we had incentives where we got paid per case). Anyway, she basically told my boss (and everyone else we worked with) that I must be cheating because there's no way I could do that much work in a day.
I went into my bosses office and cried when I started talking about it cause I was SO mad. Thankfully my boss knew the other girl was just being b!tchy.
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I've been crying a lot recently over Frances. Everyone has.
I've also cried before after being yelled at by my boss (I was sick and she called me out on something and I just lost it). usually I go to the bathroom and let it all out until I can pull myself together and go back to my desk.
we're human and I think we all break sometimes. It's just a matter of handling the situation properly. If you're going to cry, go somewhere private.
I only cry when I am p*ssed off! Only happened twice and I am not proud of it. It took me walking around the building for an hour to calm down the last time.
Yes, a few times.
- when I got the phone call that my Dad passed away.
ETA: I also cried at work the day of my Dads funeral because the a-holes wouldn't give me the day off.
- a month or two ago when one of my sales managers flipped out on me for no reason and told me "it wasn't his idea for me to get knocked up" - which was COMPLETELY unrelated to the situation - and that if it we up to him I "wouldn't get any mat. leave because I didn't deserve it".
- (back when I was a waitress) The 2 other waitresses didn't show up for their Sunday morning shift and I got stuck with the church rush. I was PMSing and majorly emotional, so I had a breakdown in the back room once they finally showed up (2 hours late).