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Seriously I'm gone a week and only one page?!?
AND JESSH is having a bebe!!!!! AHHHH! Congrats lady! I am so excited for you! I will try my darnedest to not have you be the lone preggo on TN unless Kernal beats me to it! 
I definitely had a feeling since you've been a little MIA.
Congrats to JRM for baby ZRM!
I have a lot of catching up to do. To be honest, I only read the posts so far with the most page views. Hehe.
Just a quick update on my trips: I'm back from zee islandsss which was amazeballs. Beaches T&C has seriously the best all-inclusive food I have ever eaten, if not the best food I have ever eaten in general in all of my life. Seriously, it was that good and I am having a hard time fitting into my clothes, which is quite awful but was so worth it. Weddings (Annapolis & Turks) were gorgeous. My BFF was the most beautiful bride I've ever seen and I cried my eyes out like a little baby watching her get married in one of the most beautiful places on earth. In 2014, you are all invited to join me there for my vow renewal
I'm currently chillin in Orlando at my work training but I hope to pop in here and there in the coming weeks.
Did I miss anything else besides the Penn State Pedophile? (which we were following down in T&C because we had CNN...awful awful awful). I almost vomited hearing his interview on the Today show this morning with Bob Costas.
Re: Seriously I'm gone a week and only one page?!?
Welcome back! And thanks
Hopefully you'll be joining me soon.
Glad you had a great time, I'm so freaking jealous. I could use a vacation so badly right now.
Penn State has pretty much overwhelmed the news, I don't think you missed much else of importance.
Oh, except that Newsies is officially going to Broadway! (figured you'd appreciate that)
Haha saw this today!! Effing sweetest news ever. I'll probably see it in 2013 after I finally see Book of Mormon. I hate being behind on my musicals but lately I have been slacking.
i'm tagging along whether you like it or not.
We are seriously considering coming back for a family wedding in Albany and then detouring to NYC to see Newsies AND Carrie.
I am so serious about this. We need to coordinate. nestie gtg on broadway!
I'm glad you had a great time on vacation. I'm super jealous, especially with this cold weather we have now. I'm also jealous you are in FL right now even though it is for work. I'm kind of hating you right now, actually.
How is the new job training going?
I want to come!
Hehe, the girls here in Florida are cracking me up. One of them has never seen snow and I'm trying to explain that it's cold and there's no leaves on the trees. I don't think they realize how lucky they are! I love the seasons and all (and hate this Florida humidity) but sunshine, palm trees, and green grass a week from T-day? I'll take it.
Training is going so well and I finally feel like I am where I belong to be in life and my career. I am just ecstatic. I didn't realize how unhappy I was for so long.
I forgot to say thank you for asking :-) And talk to me if you need help with some soul-searching. I feel like I have learned a lot about myself and had a lot of time to process all of this in the past few weeks. I seriously feel like I finally see the light.
Glad you had a good time in Turks, that is definitely my favorite vacation spot of all time. How was the airport? That place has gotten nuts over the years and almost missed our plane home in May.
Also, I'm really happy to hear your training is going well. You have definitely given me some inspiration about the good things coming out of a job change. Really happy to hear that you are doing well and love your job! Congrats again about the job!
Funny you say the soul searching thing because I cried my eyes out in my car this morning in the parking lot at work before going in. I really am completely miserable doing what I am doing but in this economy I have a good paying job in which Dan tells me I would be crazy to leave. I'm so stuck between finding something I love doing for a lot less pay or being miserable with great pay. I really want to leave and there is a position currently open at my old company that I would take in a heartbeat but I know the pay is a lot less. BUT! The drive is nowhere near as bad and I could get to work in 15 minutes vs. 2 hours some days. I'm also getting a lot of flack from Dan for wanting to leave right now bc I'm getting a raise in January and I get my bonus in March. I'm pretty sure he would kill me if I left now. I've been trying to just suck it up because I'm sure 99 % of people hate their jobs as well but when I think about my life as a whole, I always ask myself, "do I really want to live my life like this?" It's not just the job, but the commute, too. I feel like I need a therapist just to be able to handle my job lol. I know no job is perfect but at least you found something that is a perfect fit for you. I admire you for being able to take the risk and in the end, it sounds like it was a great decision.
You are asking the most important question here. Your mental well being is important. I often tell my clients, "your time is worth money." What would you pay to have an extra 3 hours in your day?
This is a tough situation and I was there a long time ago. I'd get so frustrated, angry and upset that I was working there. I left my old place and joined my current organization--been here for almost 10 years. My commute is long (90 min or longer), but I have an excellent boss, work/life balance, great benefits, and nice coworkers (like eSyn!). Bonuses aren't available and our staff hasn't had a pay raise in 3 years. But I'm not leaving. eSyn and I laugh that we are "lifers."
A few years ago, my husband was unemployed and a new job opportunity presented itself. The thing is, it was a reduction in salary from his last job (but again, he was unemployed at the time). With his old job, he'd get laid off for a week or two until the owner would get new business and bring him back. It was very up and down.
He interviewed and was offered the job. He's never been happier. It offered stability, good benefits, and a two block commute. We've had a plentiful life, even with less money.
We made some adjustments in our lifestyle due to the pay difference, but because he's so local, the "going to work" costs are significantly lower--cheaper gas bills, fewer miles on the car, no city wage tax, etc.
Change is scary, especially when it impacts your family. Good luck and know that I'm thinking of you.