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I should be happy, right?
Maybe I should be posting this in Trouble In Paradise:
So DH and I finally bought a house. We close on Tuesday. The back story to all of this is that I found out I was pregnant in late July (mc in Sept). Shortly after finding out I was pg, the house we are renting was put on the market for a very VERY low price. We both new it was time to bite the bullet and start looking. DH had a long list of guidelines he insisted on abiding by (1970 to current, ranch style, etc) and REA also had some suggestions regarding other features lenders find more desirable (3+ bedrooms, garage, etc). So after 2.5 months of looking we found this home, and the price was incredible. (We purchased for $93,000). It is a gem of a house. We plan on replacing some flooring and repainting a few walls for contrast. We told our current landlord we would stay through the end of the yr, to allow enough time to replace flooring and paint in the new house
The issue is that DH is dragging his feet when it comes to actually MOVING IN. He will not commit to a date to move all of the "big stuff". We work opposite schedules and he's in school part-time. We have a contractor friend how can get us an amazing deal on carpet, but it involves a 2-hr drive to Milwaukee to select it. I need to schedule time off of work..and he's just sort of "I don't know" when I ask about possible dates. I asked if he wanted to start painting on the night of closing and his response was "I'll have homework". So I guess I'll be moving & painting BY MYSELF the first night in our new home.
Re: I should be happy, right?
Why do you have to go over and start painting the night of your closing when you have your apartment until the end of the year? Seriously, take a breath.
Close on Tuesday and then set up a manageable schedule for both you and DH to get things done. Once closing papers are signed I am sure your DH will be ready to set aside some time from what sounds like his already busy schedule to do house prep.
If DH can't swing the time to drive 4 hours to pick up carpet due to work and school schedule, maybe you both can go to a local carpet store and pick out colors you like, write down information and then go to Milwaukee yourself to make final decisions.
A lot of men are not that into picking out carpet and paint colors and your DH may feel his time could be put to better use. DH and I just bought a new house in Florida last week and even though DH was at the design center with me, I basically picked out all colors for carpet, tile, cabinets, countertops etc. and DH just said "ok, whatever you want".
My DH drags his feet on everything I ask him to do. I need to tell him "we are doing X at X o'clock" then he gets his act together.
I've told him I don't want to be a nag and he said bossing him around is the only way he'll doshit. So OK.
I usually pick dates/times/options and then tell him what's up, or choose a handful and have him choose from that. Like a preschooler. Except he's pushing 30.
Agree with the others.
We also close on our first home Tuesday. Also like you -- we are doing some renovations before we move in and have not yet set a move date. And my H's answer to anything I've asked him is something like "I don't know ... let's discuss it later."
So, I called up contractors and set up appointments for them to do the work. I plan to call a moving company soon and tell them which date to come get our stuff.
I'm the thinking ahead/detail-oriented person in our household. Yes, it means I have to handle the logistics, but the upside is that when I do care about a particular thing, I get that thing. For instance, H doesn't care how we get to the new house (i.e., movers vs. getting a U-Haul vs. asking our family/friends for help) but I'd like to hire movers to do the heavy lifting so I don't have to. So, we're getting movers.
He'll just be happy when we're moved, and I'll be happy that I don't have to carry any of our 5 full-size bookshelves. Win-win!
Plan your projects for after the semester ends - or during the Christmas break. You can still paint, do carpet after moving in.
Painting is easy and moving small boxes is not a task that requires your DH.
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