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Really GOOD day and a really BAD day...
So...apparently eharmony ISN'T that lame! I got matched with a few OK guys since I joined last week and one of them I started talking to on Sunday night (we did the whole 4 steps of communication thing). We literally emailed back and forth all day Monday and Tuesday which led to us talking on the phone for over an hour last night! We have a date this Sunday! i'm super excited!!! We have alot in common, he meets my "standards" list (the "if he doesn't have these things, there could be red flags" kind of list) and conversation went pretty well! AND he's cute!
So YAY! for me! This isn't my first date post-divorce but I feel I'm at a point where I I can actually know that I'm ready for a relationship. I've spent the past year + on ME and loved my time just for myself...but ready to share that with someone else. I'm not putting the cart before the horse, I'm just excited about the date and who knows what will happen.
On the crappy note, one of my best friends (who I work with) and I got in a fight yesterday. It was totally my fault. I was making fun of a situation and she took it personally. I didn't ever intend it that way whatsoever, but she was already super sensitive about it which I dind't know and I put my foot in my mouth a few times. She's been having a rough few weeks and this I think was the straw that broke the camels back. I apologized yesterday, tried calling her, stopped at her desk this AM to talk and she's pretty much not talking to me. I feel horrible. This never happens and normally she's really good about talking through issues with people. I have this huge pit in my stomach. She's the one person I want to tell about the date and I can't. I'm at a loss of what to do. i've tried going out of my comfort zone and reaching out to her...but she's just not having it.
Ugh.As excited as I am about this date...I feel like I can't be fully excited about it because she's been such a huge support to me since the divorce and she cant' share this with me.
Re: Really GOOD day and a really BAD day...
That's very exciting about your date Sunday! Let us know how it goes!
As for your friend, can you get her a card and buy her some of her favorite candy or something to make a "peace offering?" Something similar happened to me when I was newly separated with the X and I totally went off on a friend. I apologized to her and then brought her a card with her fav chocolates.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Congrats on your date! Hope it goes well!
I also hate fighting with my best friend. I second RP's idea about the "peace offering" and apologizing.
Thanks ladies
As for my friend...it's a great idea EXCEPT she was having such a bad week last week that I went out to buy her a little plant for her desk and a card that told her what a great friend she is, what a wonderful person she is, etc. It meant alot to her, because those gestures mean alot to her . So, I feel like it would just be a repeat of that. That's why I'm really at a loss...
Would she let you treat her to lunch, happy hour or dinner?
ETA: Or maybe she just needs some time and space right now...
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I guses I'm just going to give her some space right. He boyfriend is out of town this whole weekend (which also adds to it as there is a backstory to that) but I wish he was here because I think he'd be really helpful to her...
Congrats on the date!
As for your friend, leave her alone. You've done enough, she knows you're sorry and she needs time to process all this. The more you're after her, the more pissed she gets. Let her come back to you when she feels she's ready.
Thanks all-I'll keep you posted about the date of course!
As for the friend...I guess I have to let it by and you're right that I've done what I can.