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Would you go to the funeral/wake?
What about a family member?
I found out today that my ex's dad was in a serious accident yesterday and broke 2 vertebrae. I am still close to some of his family, so I sent a text to his sister saying they were in my thoughts.
This post also got me thinking of it: http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/60352931.aspx
I really have no idea what I would do-- I mean, I really wouldn't care if my ex died, honestly. He was a mentally and emotionally abusive @$$. But I would feel badly that his family had lost a brother/son/cousin. I guess I would probably send a card or something.
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Re: If your ex died...
I probably would never find out if he died, seeing as I don't keep up with him or his family. And I wouldn't give a rat's ass, quite frankly. The most I know is that he is now married and has a baby and that's only because his mom messaged me on FB about 2 years ago and I snooped on her page. I never responded to her.
I mean, I might have an off thought about his new family and hope that they were okay. But, I wouldn't *do* anything.
I flew cross-country to spend the day with my ex-bf who was dying of a brain tumor. I flew across the country again 3 months later for his memorial.
If you loved someone enough to have lived with them (and they weren't an abusive @sshole), you go to their funeral.
If I had a good relationship with the family and the deceased and didn't have to travel, I might go to show my respects. Otherwise, a card would do it.
Someone like your ex, I would just go on with my life and that would be that.
I would only do this for one guy, to be honest-- the one long term relationship I had before I met H. We separated because it wasn't going to work out and not because anyone was wounded. If I ran into him on the street, I would give him a hug and not try to avoid him by crossing to the other side. It doesn't happen because we live in different cities, but it would be fine if it did. I would stop and talk to his family if I saw them, too.
My ex committed suicide. I went to his memorial service in my home town.
Only if my options were either not letting pinky go or letting her attend with her grandmother whom I wish would be the next victim of the Cloverfield monster.
I hate that biitch with the fire of a thousand motherfuuking suns and I don't trust her as far as I could throw her fat ass with an anvil tied around her waist besides. So I'd take pinky myself and try awful hard to resist the urge to stab that cuunt in the face and make it a double funeral.
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Hmm if I found out it happened before the wake (unlikely) and it was local I would go. We haven't talked much since I got married but I liked his family and would want to pay my respects.
I would send a card if it were in his hometown.
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To answer the question, yes I'd go to my ex-H's funeral. I wonder if some psycho ex-gf is going to off him. His track record with the ladies isn't too hot.
I would, if I knew about it.
I went to exF mothers funeral...she was a very close person to me. exF notified me when she was sick, so I went when she was ill and later. I dont regret going to see her and paying my respects later.
she was going to be my MIL at one point in my life...if dh was asked by ex to go, or was notified of a death, id enourage him to go too.
i went w/o DH, he decided against accompying me to the funeral. we had a hard falling out, exF and I, but I feel we both are at peace with what happened...so why not be a supportive friend when need be.