Starting Over
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
follow up
Hi ladies! i posted not long ago about my pending break up and I haven't been around a whole lot since then. I put myself out there, but he is moving tomorrow and putting the house we bought together up for sale. I know all y'all have been there before and everyone is at different stages of starting over. Stage 1 SUCKS. He has a match.com account with a profile pic of himself with me cropped out. Very classy. Yes, I have checked to see if he has match.com and I have checked his facebook since I know his password. Seriously, this has to stop. I cannot look at this stuff anymore.
Someone prove to me that life goes on and the future holds amazing things. I want to hear some happy stories.
Re: follow up
I remember your post. Please just decide to move on and try not to look back. Easier said than done I know, but make an effort not to talk to him anymore unless it has to do with selling the house. Stop checking his Facebook or Match profiles.
You have your whole life ahead of you. Be happy you didn't marry the guy and waste even more of your time. I was divorced in May of last year and am now in a loving relationship with a wonderful man who is all I've ever wanted and more.
The song "stronger" by Sara Evans is a great "break up anthem" if there ever was one. It is beyond true. You will at some point get to a stage where you aren't crying or wondering any more and are happy with you life ... That song came on the radio the other day and I thought to myself "I don't remember the last time i cried about it or felt upset / like a failure because my marriage failed."
That song is seriously amazing. I love it. I also love Julie roberts "break down here".
thank you thank you
Thank you haines! We were pretty close to getting married and you're right I should be so thankful that I never got the ring on my hand. I hope I find happiness like you have. When y'all first broke up did you feel like there would never be anyone else? That's how I feel sometimes.
I did feel like I wouldn't find anyone else at first. I think it's normal to feel that way. But stay positive, there are plenty of fish in the sea! Try to heal yourself first though before dating anyone seriously.
It will get better, I promise!
From a practical CYA standpoint, have you seen a lawyer? Do you also own the house? Even if you aren't married, if you own the house, you have a say in whether it goes up for sale.
Stoneylove - sorry. I know how you feel. I was obsessively wondering if StbX opted for "never been married, divorced, or widowed" when he created his online dating site (while I was pg with our second child!). And I catch myself check his fb profile to see what he's up too (I dont have passwords - he was always too secretive to give that out and even password protected his computer and IPhone)
Counseling has helped me... it nice to just talk about problems, issues, hopes, future plans etc for an hour straight. While I talk to my friends/family I begin to worry that our conversations are too one sided - but with a counselor it's supposed to be all about you
Other nestie has a great sig pic that says something like "just remember, the best moments in life have yet to happen" I love that
Thank you ladies!! It's day 2 of not having him here. Everyone says I seem to be doing really well. I have my moments. I'm just trying to stay busy!!