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XH is engaged after less than a year
I need to vent. XH and I separated in October of 2010 due to him cheating. Our divorce was final in January 2011.
Here's a little timeline of what followed...
April: He called and begged to have me back. He accessed my Roth IRA account and put $5,000 in it (without telling me) because he "knew we would be married again one day." I told him he needed help.
May: He met a new girl. She had very similar features to me and even had the same first name. He continued to text me periodically to "see how I was doing." He never told me about the new girl.
August: He proposed to her and she accepted. I did not know this.
November 15: He called me. I only answered because I have a box of documents I thought he might need. He was crying and told me his fiancee broke up with him. I was patient and calmly told him it was somewhat insulting that he was calling me to feel better about a breakup, but that perhaps he should use this time to heal from the divorce and to learn why he was so codependent. He agreed he rushed through everything and even admitted that the only reason he wanted to marry her was because he regretted ending our relationship and missed being married to 'someone like me.' He said he was going to counseling and that he would not talk to his ex-fiancee anymore.
November 17: He called again. He told me he had driven 5 hours to his ex-fiancee's home to beg her to take him back. They are now engaged again. He expected me to be happy for him and then tried to give me advice on how to have a relationship. I hung up on him.
I don't know whether to be shocked, sad, or angry. I'm a mix of everything. My friends want him dead and are making me contact AT&T to block his number.
Re: XH is engaged after less than a year
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Ugh. All I can say is I feel sorry for that poor girl!
Edit: I say that because you know how crazy he is and are able to move on to better things.
Ditto. Don't get involved in this.
I agree with this...and got a chuckle out of it too.