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WWYD... Money (long)
A few days ago DH's sister sends us a text asking what we (his other sibs too) thought about all of us saving $25 a month for 2 years and sending the folks on a trip to Scotland for their anniversary.
A little back story. FIL is really into his genealogy and has taken MIL on several excursions to trace the family roots in dusty old libraries all over the country. Ugh! He has spent years researching and writing a book about the family history. They have mentioned a few times that they want to go to Scotland to see the homeland.
FIL is unemployed, and has had several random jobs over the past 6 years. He is a retired police officer and has been for 20 years for medical reasons. This genealogy stuff has been his life as well as being a Boy Scout leader. He will be 60 this spring.
MIL is substitute teacher. She has had some long term jobs but nothing permanent. She got her Master's in 2003 and has been looking for a job since then. She's 60 and about ready to give up on finding a job. She is a very patient woman.
So obviously they are not rolling in the money.
I love them but I don't want to donate money for that. I'm being selfish and thinking of my future. In 2 years DH and I will have a house and a kid. I would like $25 each month to go towards that and not sending someone on a trip. Also, we aren't sure if DH's sister is going to save the money like the rest of us (he has 1 brother and 2 sisters). She lives at home at 33 and obviously can't manage money. I will be peeved if we all give our 600 and she only has $200. I also don't think that $2,400 will be enough to do much over there. I don't know any of the logistics of how long they would stay or where they would go.
This whole situation just frustrates me!
Thoughts? What would you do?
Re: WWYD... Money (long)
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~$2400 might be enough, but it's not going to be a luxury vacation and it won't be for a long time either, oh and they'd probably need to pay for their own food and activities... You could find cheap plane tickets for about $1k for 2 round trip tickets, and then spend ~$150/night for a week's worth of hotel rooms for another $1500 (after taxes and fees.)
How does your H feel about this trip? Would you be ok with donating FF miles or CC points towards this trip? I think the bottom line of this story is that you aren't comfortable donating money to this cause, so you shouldn't do it.
I agree with JennLin - it's a small enough amount that I would set that aside each month if I knew the rest of the siblings were going to do it, but it sounds like you're not confident on that front. I also agree that $2,400 isn't going to be enough to pay for that trip... even with the numbers uwhuskygirl worked out, you still have food, incidentals, etc., and an exchange rate that could fluctuate a lot in the next two years.
However, if the rest of the family commits to it, I would probably set aside the money for the next two years in a separate account and then re-evaluate when you're closer to the actual date. If the rest of the family members saved up the right amount, then you don't look bad for not saving, and if the rest of them didn't, then you have $600 you saved to use for a weekend getaway or something else you want to spend it on.