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What would you have done? Re: Penn St.

I came across this article: http://msn.foxsports.com/collegefootball/story/mike-mcqueary-what-angers-most-is-they-see-themselves-when-they-consider-his-actions-in-penn-state-sex-abuse-scandal-111711

If you don't feel like reading the article, this quote from it pretty much sums up what the writer was saying:

"I bring all this up because I think I understand the situation Mike McQueary faced when he walked in on Jerry Sandusky allegedly raping a 10-year-old boy in 2002. I bring it up because I believe many of the people loudly and quietly crucifying McQueary for apparently doing next to nothing to stop Sandusky would make the same choice as McQueary."

He goes on to suggest, "People, Americans in particular, are most cowardly when at work." Pretty much saying that McQueary didn't go to authorities because he was worried about his future career as a coach.

I made it a clicky poll so you can answer honestly.

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Re: What would you have done? Re: Penn St.

  • 1. Confront Sandusky immediately to stop the behavior (even as a not very large woman I could yell, "Hey! You! Stop that right now!" and get him to stop. Most abusers are total cowards anyway.

    2. Call the police immediately following that.

  • Maybe it's because I'm a mandatory reporter, maybe it's because I have kids or maybe it's because I am the type to get involved, but I can't fathom walking away from something like that and not calling the cops. Period. No one knows for sure what they'd do in any situation until confronted with it (I've learned that for sure this year) but I am confident I'd at least call the cops. At a bare minimum.
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    1. Confront Sandusky immediately to stop the behavior (even as a not very large woman I could yell, "Hey! You! Stop that right now!" and get him to stop. Most abusers are total cowards anyway.

    2. Call the police immediately following that.

    I voted "confront Sandusky," but I agree with this exactly.


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  • I hate confrontation. I'm one of those people who avoids confrontation like the plague. I don't think I would confront him (although you never know in those type of situations), but I would immediately call the police for sure.

    This article really bothers me. Maybe it's because it feels like the writer is sticking up for McQueary by saying most people would have done the same exact thing McQueary did (which I completely disagree with.) Or maybe it's because of his comparrison between McQueary and an assistant coach at Baylor:

    "In 2003, Abar Rouse, a young assistant coach at Baylor University, squealed on then-head coach Dave Bliss? plan to portray murder victim Patrick Dennehy as a drug dealer to cover up ?illegal? cash payments to Dennehy. Rouse hasn?t worked as a college coach since. He outed a coach who plotted to disgrace a murdered young person to cover his own rear."

    Squealing on a head coach's plan to disgrace someone's name is COMPLETELY different than squealing on someone who is RAPING children.


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  • I can't imagine walking in on that and not trying to put a stop to it. I would have absolutely confronted him to stop what was happening to the child at that moment, and then I would have called the cops.

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  • I hate confrontation, too - but there is no way I would let that slide. I would go beyond the university and contact the authorities.

    I can see the point the article is making - he was worried about his job, so he did the bare minimum and left it alone. I guess he figured that by doing that, he was projecting his job but also what was expected of him in a situation like that. I'm not justifying what he did, but I see what the article is saying. HOWEVER, the fact that he possibly thought about his job first before the well-being of a child blows my freaking mind [and pisses me off]. That's just pathetic.

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    I hate confrontation, too - but there is no way I would let that slide. I would go beyond the university and contact the authorities.

    I can see the point the article is making - he was worried about his job, so he did the bare minimum and left it alone. I guess he figured that by doing that, he was projecting his job but also what was expected of him in a situation like that. I'm not justifying what he did, but I see what the article is saying. HOWEVER, the fact that he possibly thought about his job first before the well-being of a child blows my freaking mind [and pisses me off]. That's just pathetic.

    Yes! What an alarming lack of personal integrity (and human fukcing decency) to put his job above the safety of all of the children that man raped and otherwise exploited. 

  • It is one thing to waffle about whether it is worth potentially losing your job over reporting that your boss may be doing something shady and unethical.  It is completely another to see with your own eyes that a child is being raped and walk away without calling the police.
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