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Dude-MIL stories
MIL came to visit this weekend, and unfortunately, our house was a disaster because of all the construction at our house. It was SUPPOSED to be done, but it didn't happen.
-She drank about 5 bottles of wine. By.her.self.
-She managed to insinuate that because of what a disaster our house was (because of the construction) that CPS could potentially take KR away.
Cleaned our kitchen for 8 hours...It was clean when she got there...
Sent DH and I "up to our room" to clean it.
Managed to give KR food that made him throw up when we went out to dinner. After I explicitly said, "he can't have small bits of food, he doesn't have teeth and will only gum something if he's holding it, otherwise he'll gag and throw up"
Managed to poke KR (6 times) in the face with a fork when trying to feed him potatoes that she dunked in a scampi sauce, until finally I took him away after saying "You probably shouldn't dunk the potatoes in that, he might allergic to shellfish" and she continued to do it.
Pass out on our hardwood floor with the neighbors over.
Took stuff out of MY shopping cart that I was going to get KR for Christmas so SHE could give it to him for Christmas.
Tried to balance KR's car seat on our garbage can so she could continue to clean the kitchen.
I LOVE my MIL, but this weekend, I about killed her. Especially when she sent us up to our room and told us that we needed to clean it.
Also when she insinuated that CPS was going to get called on us. I about lost it when DH told me that.
Re: Dude-MIL stories
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sounds very much like my MIL... minus passing out on the floor. wow.
As for the gift thing, my MIL does that all.the.time ... she is the kind of person who thinks that she needs to spend the exact same amount on everyone for Christmas or she is being 'unfair' so while I was trying to get some of my shopping (birthday and Christmas) done for Wyatt, she stole ALL of it and told me that she needed more things for him! I finally started teasing her to go find it for herself and she gave some of it back... sheesh
ETA: I can also relate when it comes to her giving him food you don't want her to... MIL insists on feeding Wyatt juice when I have asked her several times not to. She says it's okay because he's not over weight. I eventually had Lance give her serious sh!t for not respecting our decisions as parents and she backed off a bit.
the kicker? She got a DUI a while back and had to go to an alcohol information class.
She said "I learned that just because everyone else is drinking doesn't mean I need to. And since I'm smaller I can't drink as much as everybody else."
Apparently she is only applying this to when she drives now.
Oh, and she tried to take KR into bed with her, we put the kibosh on that.
I don't know what to do. Ry and I talk about how she needs to quit drinking, but he won't say "Mom, here's your choices, you either quit drinking or you won't see your grandson again" He's very passive aggressive and says "Well, so and so is worried about you...and I am too."
Wow. She sounds like a real gem.
The drinking would scare me around your son. Especially if she babysits him without you guys around.
Maybe if you can get your husband to give her some sort of ultimatum then she will realize what an issue it is. Maybe...
Oh my!
My MIL is not perfect by any means but when I hear the stories you guys tell I have to keep telling myself.
I am thankful for my MIL, I am thankful for my MIL, I am thankful for my MIL!
I was going to ask if she was an alcoholic, but it pretty much sounds like you guys are already at that conclusion.
The above is EXACTLY what needs to be said. This is one of those instances where you need to impress upon your H that your new family comes before his old one. She should definitely not be allowed to be by herself with him, and I would think that keeping him away from her at all in her inebriated state would be a good idea as well. It's tough love, but it needs to be done for KR's health and safety and her own.
That would bother me so much. Personally, I wouldn't let her stay at my house anymore until she respected how I chose to run things. I am frustrated for you!!!
The whole drinking thing needs to be handled. Whether it be limiting contact with KR when she is drinking or another approach. She is definitely a danger when she drinks!