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I don't think stbxh is serious about moving out:(
I made a decision to keep the rental that we are at. I won't be able to save much while renting there but in the grand scheme of things, I do think it is the best decision. Renting a cheaper place meaning moving elsewhere and into a tiny apartment and a big fat increase in day care. I also vison living at the current rental long term and really feel it is a safe place for my son and we have a private back yard, garage and etc.
just when I thought stbxh was searching for a rental, instead he came home with a Vanwagon, a really old one that needs a lot of fixing. He even traded in his motorcycle along with some cash. I have no idea what he was thinking, I don't know many rentals in beach town that allows 2 parking spots. Also, I can tell he is already having buyer's remorse.
This scares me because he is making big financial blunders with money he does not really have and I just have this weird irking that it is going to impact me somehow. I have a feeling he is going to spend all of his money and then have non for a deposit and first month rent check. He is not focusing on what is important and this finding a place to live that would also be safe for our son to visit him.
I can tell he is spiraling out of control, especially inwards. This is not fun at all to watch and is very upsetting. I know it is too big of an issue for me to help and I am not in the position to help. Stbxh really needs to get his act together. As much as he hurt me, I really do need him to be a father. I really want him out of the current place because it is stressing me out and I just want to make my home a warm, safe and happy place for my son and me.
Ugh?this experience is really making me think that having relationships with a s/o is just really really really bad idea. I am just so thankful that I have my son to be family with. Thanks for letting me vent.
Re: I don't think stbxh is serious about moving out:(
I dont remember if you've talked to a lawyer but if not, then do so immediately! You need to protect yourself and your son financially, especially if he's making bad financial decions that can impact you. I would check that he paid for it in cash and didn't take a loan out in your name--check your credit maybe?
I'm sorry he's being a douche.
I am meeting a lawyer on Wednesday. Also trying to get the forms for child support completed too. Should have done this sooner but the past is the past and lots of work to do this week.
Onward and upward--you're doing the right thing!