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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Funny... How do I respond?
So I was at a professional organization event last week and one of the people (male) I met followed up with me. I responded with a brief question about his project. He responded with a longer and more in-depth email with "Would you be up for getting
together sometime to discuss [our industry, common interest]?" What's a polite way to firmly say "no"? There's a slight chance I'll see him again at future association events, so I don't want to be rude and just not respond at all...
Re: Funny... How do I respond?
I'm curious to know why you would say no if it was work related when networking these days can open new doors.
Yeah, that. I mean, you did ask him a question about a professional project. Clearly you have an interest.
would you refuse this type of meeting if it was a female?
I am not sure if the longer email had a flirty vibe to it, but i see nothing wrong with this. Do you just not want to talk about the project or the industry or are you concerned about something improper?
Do you think he's asking you out on a date? Is it possible he's just trying to network? Maybe he's job hunting and is interested in your organization?
But even if he's networking, it doesn't mean you have to get together with him. You could reply and say your schedule is very busy right now and you don't have time to get out of the office for lunch most days.
He did have a lead for me, but I also felt like he kept looking at me at the event... so I guess I'm questioning his intentions. I like to know what other people are working on in case I do something similar one day, but I definitely don't feel the need to get together.
In other circumstances, I definitely have gotten together with a networking contact. This time, I would be more willing to get together just to network if this was a female...DITTO. I've had lunch with a govt contractor (male). He teaches firearms. I work for a police dept. We just bounce ideas back and forth and I have bought a coworker with me and its never a problem. The more the merrier usually.
agree with Habious that you need to be comfortable and with this added bit of info i can see if you are questioning intentions.
I think the idea of bringing a coworker is a great solution. You still meet up with him and say that you're bringing a coworker to add to the brainstorming - then, your intentions are clear to him and, if it's an honest attempt to network, as Jitterbug said, 'the more the merrier'.