Stress--How did you handle/cope?

autumnbaby07 · November 2011

It's been 10 weeks now since we discussed separation; I moved out over the weekend. My parents are upset...my sister does nothing but badger me...I've been a wreck over these weeks. My hair is coming out a lot. So much I can finally tell a difference in the thickness! I wasn't taking care of myself, either; wasn't eating well and lack of sleep.

My close friends say stress is to blame. Since moving out Friday, I feel 100x better. Feel a huge weight off of my shoulders and a ton of bricks lifted off of me. I am content and happy!

STBX is an ass, or acting like one. Know this is to be expected, but I'm trying to figure out to keep myself emotionally and physically healthy moving forward.

How did you gals get through?

Temp552270562505132 · November 2011

I started running. I've been running 5ks ever since maybe i'll even do a half marathon someday.

It's really a huge stress reliever and also, it keeps your head from exploding.

kjewell · November 2011

Running has been my biggest stress releaver in all aspects of my life.

ClaireDunphy · November 2011

Another runner here. I ran while I was married, but for a long time I didn't want to run because I was so depressed. Then I asked him to leave & magically my weekly mileage dramatically increased Yes

UDscoobychick · November 2011

Dancing and baking/cooking for me! Nothing like putting on my favorite music and dancing it out or throwing myself into a complicated baking project to distract me!

becwheat · November 2011

Therapy, meditation, exercise, time with friends

silly.goose · November 2011

If you aren't already in therapy, I'd suggest that first. Exercise is a great way to combat stress -- I'm one of those people who really doesn't *like* working out, so it was especially hard for me to find the motivation to do it when I was depressed (which is funny since I knew it would help with the depression). For me, doing activities I enjoy is a big boost -- I go to museums with a friend, or take a knitting class, or walk around the park with my dog. Those things really make me feel good about my new independent/single life.

kellandragon · November 2011

A drink now and then is ok but don't turn to alcohol... Besides the obvious reasons it just makes you feel crappier. At least that's what it did for me... I agree with PP's about exercise, also take up some hobbies... It sounds dumb but when I'm really stressed sketching and playing my guitar help a lot! I hope things calm down a bit for you soon!

AirIsRunningOut · November 2011

I was really sick from the stress, too. I actually still have severe anxiety stemming from my divorce. It's getting better, but I make myself sick, I got my period 3 times in one month, and my hair started to fall out also. It gets easier. I started exercising and taking bootcamp classes, lost 50 lbs in 3 months. That helped a lot. Now for stress, I go for long rides or go to sleep, which isn't healthy, but it's how I cope. I talk to my dad on the phone when I'm a mess and having a good support system is helpful. Therapy also helps.

hainesherway · November 2011

Ditto therapy, time with family/friends, and exercise.

marigoldgirl44 · November 2011

I like to journal. I write everything out. No one sees it, no one is judging what I am saying and helps tremendously for me to get out my thoughts and feelings.

becwheat · November 2011

marigoldgirl44:
I like to journal. I write everything out. No one sees it, no one is judging what I am saying and helps tremendously for me to get out my thoughts and feelings.

this too!

KaraC18 · November 2011

A number of things helped me...

1) Writing in my journal, reading past entries

2) Praying (Not sure if you're religious, but this was a key part of it for me. It was nice to know that someone much bigger than me had my problem in his hands, because at times it was so much more than I could handle.)

3) Lifting weights / Working out

4) Distractions - shopping, movies, indulging in my fav. TV shows, baking, going boating with friends, etc etc.

silly.goose · November 2011

beccaga16:

marigoldgirl44:
I like to journal. I write everything out. No one sees it, no one is judging what I am saying and helps tremendously for me to get out my thoughts and feelings.

this too!

Don't know why I didn't think of that - I journalled a lot when we first split, really helped me to recognize my own feelings for what they were.

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