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Pity Party
This is my first round of holidays since the divorce. This sucks!
Re: Pity Party
Mine too....and I'm actually looking forward to making new memories with my kids! We're starting new traditions this year....we're hosting a Polar Express party for friends, decorating the way we'd like, a new gift exchange, etc. My anniversary is New Years Day and my kids and I are going on a trip to make new memories on that day.
I think it's about your attitude...does is suck, absolutely, but it has the opportunity to be pretty awesome!
Mine too. I'm pretty excited. XH made last Christmas so damn miserable even if I'm completely alone and do nothing (I'm going to FL though to see family) it'll be an improvement over last year.
Let me start by saying that I am very lucky. I have a great job, parents that welcomed me back to their house and a very amicable divorce.
But I am so not looking forward to the holidays. My family is very spread out and no single friends near me. Holidays were always spent with my EX's family. Just feeling lost. And I know it is the holidays, but I am feeling lonely. Missing holding hands, snuggling and kisses.
Ok, rant over.
Can you travel to family? Have you gotten any invites from friends? Could you volunteer some place? Could you take a trip some place fabulous?
It will be different, yes, but different can be pretty good sometimes too.
It's my first (ever) by myself too and I am now pretty excited actually. I was kinda sad that not a single person close to me here in the US asked what I was doing for Thanksgiving or invited me (backstory: my family and most of my friends are in France so no one celebrates Thanksgiving). But I am so happy I don't get to spend the Holidays with stbxh's family anymore. It was so depressing and full of drama.
On Thursday I plan on having a nice fancy meal with candles, rent a good DVD and drink wine.
I love this. Great attitude.
My first holidays divorced as well and every time I am around my family for get togethers it is hard not to think about what used to be and it is also impossible for someone in my family to not bring up some aspect of my XH or marriage.
Nonetheless, I am going to savor the moments I have with my family and with finally being done with school. It will mark the beginning of a new chapter in my life and I am excited to see where this takes me.
What I did during my first post divorce holiday season was make some traditions of my own. I was completely alone and pretty depressed, as I used to spend the holidays with my ExH's family.
I started making holiday candy that year. I put on music and a cute apron and got messy with chocolate. I brought it into work and gave it to friends. Now i have people making special requests every year! They love my candy and I love doing it. It's my "thing" that I started for myself.
I also find that volunteering at shelters and soup kitchens really brightens up the holiday season. You help people and it brings you back to reality of how good you really do have it.
It's mine too. I'm pretending that Thanksgiving doesn't exist.
Mine too but like PP said, I'd much rather not have him around because we would always fight. Plus my family is awesome so I'm alone but not really alone if you know what I mean.
Try to make the best out of it and enjoy a drama free holiday season!
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