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Small step but happy nonetheless!
My MIL is pretty outspoken. And most of the time, rude. I married her only son and so she just can't help making snide comments to me all the time. When it's just the two of us, she loves to tell me about how I am not a good enough wife for her son.
Tonight was a family potluck and game night. Everyone knew that we would be late. It was starting at six and my husband gets off work at 7:45-8:00. He lost his job a few months back and is working two part-time jobs for less money to pay the mortgage (I work full-time and go to school full-time too). Because we would be late, we were just bringing tortillas so that people wouldn't be missing a main dish when we came late. Everyone knew and discussed that I would go and get tortillas from everyone's favorite - and busy - place to bring. I spent my whole lunch today getting those two dozen tortillas.
As soon as we walk in, there are comments about how we took so long with the tortillas. We ignore it. Then MIL makes a comment that we should taste the tortillas that she brought because they were good and on-time. Usually, DH just lets that slide for the sake of peace. But today, he stood up for me. He told her that I had put a lot of effort into getting the tortillas that they wanted and that we got there when we could. He said very politely that there was no need to be rude and that shut her up.
I know that DH was raised to never question/stand up against MIL and I'm super proud of him for making that small step tonight. Not expecting a miracle but happy of the direction it's going.
Re: Small step but happy nonetheless!
I married her only son and so she just can't help making snide comments to me all the time.
This does not compute. I married my MIL's only son as well but she only says nice things to me.
I'm glad your H is making small steps in the right direction.
It does not compute for me as well. He married my parents' only daughter and they don't act that way. But she literally told me that the reason why she gets upset is because he is her "only son."
Why even listen to her when she talks to you? "MIL, I'm not listening to this." And leave the room. Why even put yourself around this woman if she treats you with very little respect?
I was thinking the same when I was reading it.
I love the word "tortillas".
Yeah, that's all I've got.
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It is a good step forward.
How long has this been going on?
Why have both of you been accepting it up to now?
Sorry that your MIL is such a b1tch!
I married my MIL 's only son as well, and fortunately my MIL likes me very much.
I am glad your husband has taken a stand against her, as he should, and I also hope that continues from now on. Does he know that she tells you that you are not good enough? That is pretty horrible. What has he said about it?
If her behaviour continues, you may need to talk about how your relationship with her is going to continue (or not) in the future.
I am with others, this post makes me sad.