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Thanksgiving drama- WWYD?
MIL is having surgery two weeks after Thanksgiving. She hasn't been feeling well for a few months and needs to rest up for the surgery. She has decided (and rightfully so) not to host Thanksgiving. That leaves me and SIL. MIL expressed to me that she feels very awkard at SIL's house (her daughter) b/c of SIL's husband. There's some more family drama behind that, but way too much to get into. She also feels obligated to help out more at SIL's house and can't do that this time around. In addition, b/c of the layout of SIL's house, we must eat in three different rooms. DH and I suggested having it at our house. We have enough space, seating, and dishes. MIL told DH last night that our house is simply too small for that. Um, what? We would have to eat in two rooms, but they are at least connected. MIL suggested that if DH and I want to host, we can do it at her house. My problem with that is, if I'm going through the trouble of hosting, I want to do it at MY house, with MY dishes, and in MY kitchen. WWYD, ladies??
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Re: Thanksgiving drama- WWYD?
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Yeah I would thank her for her kind offer but say that having it at your home will work better for you.
Ditto this, word for word!
And - she'd feel obligated to help out more at SILs house, but not at her own? How about cleaning (before and after)?
Exactly this. I'd thank her for the offer, but mention that you'd be more comfortable hosting it at your own home.
It sounds to me like she still wants to host, but knows that she's not up to all the work it involved.
I'm sure it's hard letting go of being the host if it's always been your thing.
But...you guys are offering to host, which means you get to do it in anyway that suits you. I hate cooking on other people's kitchens, so I wouldn't be keen to do that either.
Like others said, this. And I'd also add to let her know how excited your are to use your wedding china and how much you've been looking forward to an opportunity to have everyone over for a holiday.
I think it's your right as a hostess to say this, but also remember - she just got out of surgery. I'm not sure what kind (and it's none of my business), but it may be not so much that she's trying to still host but rather that she knows she'll be uncomfortable, possibly in pain or possibly want to be near her own rest room facilities/bedroom or something to that extent, but is too embarrassed to say that. Definitely take that into account when making your decision.