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Crazy MIL
I normally lurk on all over the place on all three of the boards but I figured this was the best place to vent this.
I do have a great relationship with my MIL, which is a relief, however, she is BSC. She doesn't think things through and is about to put everyone in a crappy situation, including herself. Basically she has moved in the last 29 years (DH's age) about 27 times. She moves more than a miliary family. She has never been good with money and that's one reason she moves so much. The house they are renting now is a great house. DH's sFIL is in bad health and she wants to move to somewhere cheaper before something happens to him. I understand this but instead of waiting until spring or until something actually happens to sFIL she wants to move in December, right before Christmas while it is freezing outside!
They have a beautiful siberian husky that I'll have to keep at my parents house because the new place won't allow it. I don't nessesarily mind taking care of him and I am a huge animal lover, but she just doesn't think about a lot of things when it comes to moving. She's moving to a single wide trailer near her sister. In the past she has HATED being in a single wide trailer and cannot tolerate her sister and her kids very well. I just am frustrated by the situation even though I cannot do anything about it. I begged DH to try and talk some sense into her so I'm hoping he can. I know this isn't my cross to bare however, people who don't think things through REALLY irriate me.
Re: Crazy MIL
If I was her I'd want to move now instead of waiting for something to happen to my DH, I couldn't imagine trying to find another place alone/dealing with the finances and my husbands illness/death all at the same time.
It's weird that she moves so much but this time is it really a bad idea to do it now or does it just inconvenience you more now?
also, I'm not getting why it's bad to move when it's cold outside?
I too don't understand why moving in the winter is such a terrible idea.
However, I also don't understand why her dog will become your problem. If she chooses to move someplace that doesn't allow dogs, then she should be the one to find a new family for the dog. That is a lot to ask of your parents.
While a single wide trailer might not be ideal and she may have hated it in the past - it might be the most practical solution for her current situation or immediately near future. Perhaps, for once in 30 years she is thinking about her situation proactively even if the actions might not be pleasant. Perhaps she is being MM in making this decision.
Why do you assume she hasn't thought this through? Because she hasn't shared every detail of her decision making or every emotion she has experienced in making this decision?
What consequence do you bare by her making this decision/how does it impact your family? You do have a choice in not keeping in the dog and frankly, I would not have agreed to do that long term myself.
I know this isn't my cross to bare however, people who don't think things through REALLY irriate me.
You're right, this is not your cross to bear. So butt out.
It's none of your business if MIL wants to move a million times in a month, if she's lousy with money, or if she wants to move during a blizzard. The only things that you should worry about are things that concern YOU, which none of this does.
If you want to help care for the dog, then that's fine, but do it and don't complain about it. If you don't want to help out with the dog, that's also fine, just tell her "Sorry but we can't help out" with no further apology or explanation. You don't "have" to help take care of the dog, so don't act like you have no choice in the matter. Either watch the dog or don't, but own your decision. And I don't really get why you're not only getting involved in this, but you're bringing your own parents into it as well.
It's understandable that other people's decisions might annoy you. But guess what, you have no power over their decisions. If they're not hurting anyone then you have NO right to tell them to change their ways. If your problem is that they're bugging you for help, then just say no. End of discussion. People are going to irritate you for your whole life, so learn how to ignore them.
Your MIL is a grown woman. If by this point in her life that she doesn't think there's anything wrong with her choices, then your husband "talking some sense into her" isn't going to do anything but offend her. So seriously, mind your own business.
So, why did you expect this year to be any different than the last 29?
i think that moving before something happens iwht him is the SMART thing to do.of course moving when it's cold isn't ideal, but it's not ideal when it's raining or 105 and humid either. take your pick. you move when you have to.
butt out of this. it's not your place to say anything or have dh try to talk some sense into her.
about the husky good for your parents for taking him in to a good home. it sounds like he'll have a much more stable environment there. as long as your parents are ok iwth it you should be too.