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i miss sex!
so a month ago my husband lost his job and two weeks ago i was offered my dream job. we haven't had sex since i got called in for the interview and before that it was a healthy 3x a week. i've said stuff (more playfully than bitching) about missing it, but he really doesn't seem to have any interest in me right now, he doesn't even want to cuddle or hug/kiss during the day like we usually do. what would yall suggest??
Re: i miss sex!
He is depressed about the job loss. He may be subconsciously jealous of your good fortune.
I would start by mentioning sex in a playful way "Hey there...I have been missing that hot bod of yours. Let's plan to have some sexy time this weekend!"
This reminds me of my ex. We were very competitive with each other. If something was wrong with him, he would make sure I was down in the dumps with him. Totally unhealthy. Hopefully you and yours are not that way with each other.
I would talk to him about it. Maybe schedule a fun date night for the two of you that you know would cheer him up. Hopefully by the end of the night, he'll want sexy time
I would say he is definitely depressed about losing his job, as well as you being offered a new one. Men are very much of the mindset of being the providers and when that is taken away from them, it can be a serious blow to the male ego. My DH lost his job last year, and he has moped around the house since. He brightened up considerably in recent weeks when he was able to do some steady contract work, but now that is gone, and he is back to being really moody. It does not help that I have been working steady for over 2 years now.
For now, let him be, as far as his moodiness, but keep trying to initiate sex with him. If he continues to brush you off, then sit down with him and ask him point blank what is bothering him. Do not expect him to want to talk about it constantly like women tend to do. Men like to say something about it once, then move on (at least most of them are that way). Just be supportive and understand it is the situation, not you, that is bringing him down.