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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
DS wrote about "loving each other more"
in his 1st grade journal he wrote:
...
I love mommy. Mommy loves me.
I love daddy. Daddy loves me.
I think everyone should love more.
...
I wondered if he meant "Daddy should love mommy more and vise versa", since he knows we sleep in separate bedrooms (still living in the same house til we refinance so I can move out) and don't spend any time together.
I asked him what he meant but he just said "everyone should love!" so I didn''t push it, but I felt my eyes start to prickle, knowing the upcoming conversation we need to have with our boys.
*sigh*
Re: DS wrote about "loving each other more"
I thought the same as you when I read it.
Awww.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
To the women and men with kids going through this, you are SO strong. Sending you all hugs...
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
OMG this made me all teary...my DD was 5 when her dad and I split up. We went and talked to a counselor about how to go about telling her. We always lived together for awhile seperated before he moved out so I can totally relate to what you are going through. Its so sad...my DD is very well adjusted now and we have very open communication (to an extent) with her about the divorce and her feelings.
Add me to the list of people who teared up at this post. Same here, only DS was 5 weeks old when XH moved out for good. I'm thankful our kids are stronger and more resiliant than we are, even if it's only because they're blissfully ignorant to the situation.
Our boys are 6 and 4- We aren't saying anything to them until we have our new housing arrangements.
But we doing Thanksgiving with the four of us - maybe a little akward but we do dinners with the four of us most nights (mainly talking to the kids not each other). We plan to come together as "co-parents" for all holidays & birthdays - not sure if it will work, but we're going to try (at least for the first couple of years as we don't have any other family nearby to share holidays with.
Your dancing story is so sad. I would have said the same thing. My counselor told me to use those moments to start to explain that mommy and daddy don't do things together...., but I can't, not yet, its just so hard. I'm partly a coward, partly afraid of hurting them, partly afraid of traumatizing their lives, and partly afraid of balling my eyes out in front of them and freaking them out more then necessary).