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uhhh MIL

RosesRRedRosesRRed
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I just got an email from my MIL telling me she organzing an event on the weekend before my sons birthday next year and we will need to have his birthday on the following weekend.

She did the same thing this year. She told us which weekend we would have his birthday party since they spend their summers in Colorado. She said the flights were cheaper so I did not get upset the 1st time. It was a rational reason so we accomendated them.

This time I am anger. She is organizing the event and she picked a date where it gives DH and I no other option but to have LO birthday on the other weekend. We are almost a year out from his birthday and she is not giving us an option. I just think it is so rude.

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  • startingover2010startingover2010
    I would be tempted to call bs on that.  It's such a passive agressive move.  I think you should be able to have your DS's party whenever you want to.  It's up to her to pick if she thinks the other event is more important. ::stepping off soapbox::
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  • Suzi-G-Suzi-G-
    I tend to agree w/ the PP.  I'd just tell her it's too far in advance for you to plan yet and that you will decide when DS's party will be based on your schedules when it's closer. 
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  • starlettedirstarlettedir member
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    Maybe I'm a witch but I'd do it on the best day for you and DH. Not everyone will be able to make every party
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  • FinallyKrisBFinallyKrisB

    imagestarlettedir:
    Maybe I'm a witch but I'd do it on the best day for you and DH. Not everyone will be able to make every party

    This.

    If she had to firm up the date for the event now and had consulted you and asked it would be one thing.  But to simply TELL you when you had to have it.  No bueno.

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  • CareBear01CareBear01

    I would be tempted to say "Oh, so sorry to hear you will not be able to make DS's bday next year!"

    Don't know if I would actually do it - but would be tempted.  ;-)

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  • Borski2BBorski2B
    imageCareBear01:

    I would be tempted to say "Oh, so sorry to hear you will not be able to make DS's bday next year!"

    Don't know if I would actually do it - but would be tempted.  ;-)

    THIS. It would make me mad too. 

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  • AF84AF84

    imagestartingover2010:
    I would be tempted to call bs on that.  It's such a passive agressive move.  I think you should be able to have your DS's party whenever you want to.  It's up to her to pick if she thinks the other event is more important. ::stepping off soapbox::

    Exactly! 

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  • AmyDrinkieAmyDrinkie member
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    It IS rude.  Someone needs to tell her she's being ridiculous.
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  • kbtoreadorkbtoreador
    imageFinallyKrisB:

    imagestarlettedir:
    Maybe I'm a witch but I'd do it on the best day for you and DH. Not everyone will be able to make every party

    This.

    If she had to firm up the date for the event now and had consulted you and asked it would be one thing.  But to simply TELL you when you had to have it.  No bueno.

    Ditto!

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  • houstonkdwhoustonkdw
    Your husband (not you) needs to tell her that it is too far out for you to be able to commit to any weekend and that when it gets closer, you will be picking the date that works best for your son and your family.
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  • melissa0312melissa0312
    imageFinallyKrisB:

    imagestarlettedir:
    Maybe I'm a witch but I'd do it on the best day for you and DH. Not everyone will be able to make every party

    This.

    If she had to firm up the date for the event now and had consulted you and asked it would be one thing.  But to simply TELL you when you had to have it.  No bueno.

    ditto!!

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  • kreeper611kreeper611
    imageCareBear01:

    I would be tempted to say "Oh, so sorry to hear you will not be able to make DS's bday next year!"

    Don't know if I would actually do it - but would be tempted.  ;-)

    This.  Well, I'd tell DH to say that.

    I would be willing to accommodate like you did last year for plane tickets.  But since she isn't really elaborating on this "event" then she may just be out of luck.  I mean, what if you best friend gets married the weekend you're supposed to have his b-day party?  Obviously YOUR schedule would dictate having it the weekend she doesn't want.  Too bad.

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  • RosesRRedRosesRRed
    Her event is a Mah Jongg tournament that she is organizing which is not something I am willing to accommodate.
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  • starlettedirstarlettedir member
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    imageRosesRRed:
    Her event is a Mah Jongg tournament that she is organizing which is not something I am willing to accommodate.

    oh heck no.

    I would not work with that at all

     

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    imageRosesRRed:
    Her event is a Mah Jongg tournament that she is organizing which is not something I am willing to accommodate.

    oh heck no.

    I would not work with that at all

     

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  • RaeAntRaeAnt
    Why exactly does it have to fall on that weekend each year? She knows when her grandson's birthday is, she should be the one working around that! Her event can occur anytime, your son's birthday,can't.
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  • miss67cmiss67c

    she sounds like a control freak.

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  • RosesRRedRosesRRed

    She is! She questions everything and everyone all the time. She even has taken Kyle out of my arms when he was a baby because she did not like how I was feeding him. She told me that she was going to take over and take him upstairs to rock/feed him and that I should finish cleaning up her kitchen.

    I am a very patient person but I think that spending Thanksgiving with her may push me over the edge. I need to make it clear to her that I am not ok with the way she treats me. She actually treats everyone like this but I can only speak for myself when I say that I have had enough.

     

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    2/27/10 ConocoPhilips Rodeo Run 10K 1:10:49
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  • kbtoreadorkbtoreador
    imageRosesRRed:

    She is! She questions everything and everyone all the time. She even has taken Kyle out of my arms when he was a baby because she did not like how I was feeding him. She told me that she was going to take over and take him upstairs to rock/feed him and that I should finish cleaning up her kitchen.

    I am a very patient person but I think that spending Thanksgiving with her may push me over the edge. I need to make it clear to her that I am not ok with the way she treats me. She actually treats everyone like this but I can only speak for myself when I say that I have had enough.

     

    Surprise  That is NOOOOOOT ok!!!!

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  • txbootsytxbootsy
    imageRosesRRed:

    She is! She questions everything and everyone all the time. She even has taken Kyle out of my arms when he was a baby because she did not like how I was feeding him. She told me that she was going to take over and take him upstairs to rock/feed him and that I should finish cleaning up her kitchen.

    I am a very patient person but I think that spending Thanksgiving with her may push me over the edge. I need to make it clear to her that I am not ok with the way she treats me. She actually treats everyone like this but I can only speak for myself when I say that I have had enough.

     

    hell no!! I would never hang out with her again, until shye apologized. She should clean up her own kitchen!

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