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Female ejaculation
Sort of a strange and mysterious thing to me, but SO seems to be all about it because that is the ONLY porn he watches and I've noticed recently that he is all about trying to make me "squirt" I don't think it is possible, and I didn't think there was even a very big percentage of the female population that could even do that. So now all he focuses on is the "G spot" which doesn't always feel that amazing for me as it is supposed to. I don't know if he had other girlfriends that could do this but I feel like this is his only fantasy and I'll never be able to fullfill that and since I know that is all he watches when he masturbates it's starting to make me feel uncomfortable and like I can't please him. I personally don't really want to be able to do that, it looks messy and seems unesescary?
Re: Female ejaculation
You never, ever have to try anything sexual that you don't want to, so don't let him push you. I understand it is pretty rare to be able to squirt and that porn stars who do it do a lot of prep work to be able to produce such volume.
If your G-spot doesn't feel that awesome, either 1) he's not getting the right spot or 2) it's just not your thing. He should be wanting to touch you in ways that feel good to you, not ways that get some porno result he's looking for.
There are articles out there that explain how other women have learned to squirt if you decide you do want to try. I haven't really put an effort into it, but I do squirt a tiny bit occasionally. Nothing like in porn, obviously, but I think you both need to realize that porn=unrealistic. Really, it concerns me more that he doesn't seem to care about your feelings and enjoyment in addition to his own.
I was gonna say let him knock himself out, but not if you're uncomfortable.
I wouldn't want anyone obsessing over something that has to do with my orgasm. That should be your choice/preference.... and your outlet only if you feel comfortable with that. I experience this almost every time, but I felt it building even before I knew what it was. Also, alot of the porn squirting is fake from what I have read. I have been told you can learn to do it with certain types of stimulation, but there is no way it would happen if you were uncomfortable.... you have to be very relaxed (at least in my experience). I will say that my DH really enjoys it, but so do I... but it took me a really long time to get used to that type of orgasm without being selfconscious.
A G spot need not be touched for that to happen.
And not all women can squirt. Again, it all depends on the individual.
He is comparing you to the women who do and he's too focused on getting you to do it. I wouldn't be happy about that, either.
Again: you need to communicate with him.
Tell him what you told us -- and that his big thing and preoccupation with squirting is upsetting you. He's got to understand that he can't go around expecting you to do something you cannot.
The first time I had a woman "squirt" was a surprise to me and it was her first time. I was about six years older than she was which was forty five. She was a mother and her husband was a minute man. He was interested in his gratification and oblivious to her and her feelings.
She was sitting on top, slowly moving up and down, leaning forward enough so I could stroke her breast, talking to her in a very low voice, and she had an orgasm which included squirting. At first I did not know what to think but I saw the contentment and happiness on her face I knew I was a was witnessing true gratification and contentment.
She and I discussed what had happened. It was our secret and enjoyed loving each other for several years even though we were married to different mates.
The first time I had a woman "squirt" was a surprise to me and it was her first time. I was about six years older than she was which was forty five. She was a mother and her husband was a minute man. He was interested in his gratification and oblivious to her and her feelings.
She was sitting on top, slowly moving up and down, leaning forward enough so I could stroke her breast, talking to her in a very low voice, and she had an orgasm which included squirting. At first I did not know what to think but I saw the contentment and happiness on her face I knew I was a was witnessing true gratification and contentment.
She and I discussed what had happened. It was our secret and enjoyed loving each other for several years even though we were married to different mates.
I wouldn't be upset that he was discussing his fantasy with you or that he was trying to make you do what he saw in the videos. He feels close enough to you to share an intimate idea and risk you "looking at him funny" if nothing worse... that is to be cherished!
I think "squirting" isn't something he wants for its own sake; it means (to him) that you have had a mind-blowing orgasm and that it was "all him." So if the pursuit of squirting is getting old, keep reassuring him that your regular "everyday" orgasm is mindblowing on its own.
I "squirt" during o sometimes and trust me, it's not that great. It makes me feel self-conscience even though DH likes watching me do it but he's happy w/o it too, as long as I o. Plus, it's so messy! Not like guys where you can just wipe it up, it soaks the sheets.
You are so fuucking creepy.
This 100%
This scenario is...just weird.