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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
If you live or have lived away from family
How was it when it was still "new"? If you could pick a distance, what would it be? I'm thinking I want to be within driving distance, if possible.
FWIW, neither of us have ever lived away from our families.
Another old nestie with a new name.
Re: If you live or have lived away from family
I won't sugar coat it. If you and your family are close, it sucks. Is it doable? Sure.
I think it's a really personal decision and you should base it on your own feelings rather than the experience of others that may not have the same relationships that you have with your own family.
I can sum up my feelings on the matter by saying I hate it. I've lived about 1000 miles away from my family for the past 8 years and it never really gets easier for me. My first year here, I think I cried on a daily basis. But I'm stubborn and was determined to stick it out for at least a year before throwing in the towel. Luckily, right around the one-year mark, I met DH and fell into a job that I loved. That made things better, but I still cried like a baby every time I left NY after a visit with my family - for the next 4 years or so. I see them usually 3-5 times per year, and it's definitely not enough.
If DH and I could pick up our house and our jobs and transfer them somewhere else, I would definitely choose an area that is close enough to drive home for a weekend if I wanted to. Or to an area with a good airport that offers direct/quick cheap flights to my hometown.
LIke Madisen said, it really depends on you and your family relationships.
My family and best friend are so much a part of who I am that it just feels WRONG to be so far away. It sucks, a lot, especially this time of year.. and it hasn't gotten any easier after almost 6 years... harder if anything. I cry holidays I'm not with them, I cry when leaving them, I cry random days when I think about my dad (who isn't much for phone/email) or about my best friend's infant hitting milestones... I hate it with every fiber of my being, and every once in a while I buy myself a present for keeping that hatred to myself and not exploding on DH (who already feels bad enough and gets enough grief from my family)..
My limit for when we move back up north is that we need to be within 2.5h driving distance. Like nikki said -- close enough for a weekend trip once a month or so at least.