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When to reach out for help
I find myself really troubled with something lately.
I am not on BC, but DH and I are not trying to get pregnant. I take my temp and track my CM, so I know when I'm fertile.
Every time I get to my fertile point, I find myself desperately wanting/needing/craving to get away from DH. Like, for good. Suddenly everything he does bugs the sh!t out of me, and the idea of him touching me makes my skin crawl. Everything he says makes me cringe. I find myself fantasizing about just leaving, or kicking him out.
After a week or so, I feel "back to normal." Things he does still annoys me, but its more of a background hum than a desparate screaming in my ear. I still love him at all times, its just easier to feel affection for him when I'm not at a fertile time.
1) Is this normal? at all?
2) Does it sound like something I need to discuss with a therapist? I feel so abnormal and irrational.
Re: When to reach out for help
I would say that it might be normal, and it might not be normal.
I do know that we (women) tend to be more emotional/irritable during both flow time and ovulation time. So, it might just be your cycle screwing with your hormones. Also, did you just recently go off BC? Maybe your hormones are still trying to regulate themselves?
Other thing I'm thinking is that you REALLY don't want to get pregnant, so you're avoiding him at all costs so that it isn't a possibility?
However, I would say that if he's annoying you/making your skin crawl 24/7 - there might be a problem. Have you talked to him about the things that are annoying you? Maybe some of them he doesn't realize he's doing, and can be easily corrected.
If it's beyond all of that, you might want to seek out advice or counseling. Maybe even just talking to a good friend about it if you have someone that you trust in that way.
I agree with pp. It may be because you don't want to get prego so much, that it makes you have these feelings towards DH.
I also think that if you have had the thought that a therapist may help, they probably will. Even just one appointment might help you to figure things out.