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I think I need thicker skin...
It's been almost a week since we listed our house for sale. Before listing we had three realtors come over, so we could get a feel for what the house should be listed for and what if anything should be done before listing. They all said the same thing that the house looks great and actually two had stated the same listing price and one actually said we could start higher... We went with the opinion of the two realtors and went with the lower price.
We've had four showings so far, and another one tonight. We've gotten feed back from two. One was good one was bad. I know not everyone will like or love our house but still getting bad feedback just doesn't feel good 
And I guess not really knowing what was wrong with the house/layout/exterior just doesn't help.
Sorry this post really isn't for anything but just feeling down. I didn't think having people critique our house would be so hard.... I hope this process doesn't take very long but I'm not too optimistic as everyone says this is a bad time to list
Thanks for listening.
Re: I think I need thicker skin...
Well, we offered on a house a month ago and purchased it yesterday, so there are still people looking at houses even around the holidays!
I would imagine it's hard to have people not fall in love with your house. I felt terrible for the houses we saw but didn't love (12 in total). We gave the same very general (and unhelpful) feedback via our agent ... mostly it was that we just didn't love the location, the room layout, or the room size or something. For me it wasn't anything I could have explained anyway ... when we walked in the house we bought, I just had a gut reaction that the room size, layout, etc was perfect. I didn't even know the dimensions at the time.
I don't know how active your area/market is, but 4 walk-throughs in a week sounds excellent!
Four showings is great. I know it's hard to hear negatives about your house but you have to remember not every person that will walk in your door will love your house. Like the pp explained, we toured several houses in person and sometimes there's no feedback that would be helpful. We walked in several and just knew it wasn't for us. There was nothing the seller could have changed to make it better for us... it just wasn't a house we could see ourselves living in.
Just remember it's nothing against you... and when you are shopping for homes you'll have the same experience. Not every house will feel like a home for you and your realtor will have to give feedback and it won't be helpful. As long as you aren't hearing "I hate the yellow countertops" over and over without fixing them, then there's nothing you can do but sit back and wait for a buyer.
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I know how you feel! We had our house listed for 6 months and the week before we were going to take it off the market, we got an offer and closed on it 2 weeks after that. Also, 4 showings already is really good!
Try not to get discouraged. We all feel like that with negative feedback.. it use to get both myself and DH down. It's a given that not everyone is going to love your house.. don't take it personal! Goodluck!
I know it is hard. I have sold 2 times and both times I was a nervous wreck... and that was in much better times. 99 and 2004 and we sold in 1 months and 2 weeks.
So-- I do not look forward to trying to sell now as it will be an emotional roller coaster.
What was the negative feedback?
When DH and I look at houses we are very analytical (which may not be common)... we don't fall in love with houses. We want to buy the house that has the most updates (or does not and the seller is willing to sell at the right amount under market) to make the house the right decision for us. So for us that means if it is an oak, hickory, or any other variety wood that has a lot of knots, looks 80s, or is painted white in a cheap way (if it is nice, high end painted cabinets I like it, but if it is 80s oak, cheaply painted, no way)... so for us this is a deal breaker unless you are willing to discount your house by 20-25 grand to pay to replace it.
Other ones for us are very old mechanicals, roofs that have less than 5 years of life left, large cracks in cement driveways or porches, any sort of structural issue or a leaky basement. I will deal with tiny amounts of mold in an attic or something if it is professionally mitigated or radon as long as you mitigate, but most other "big" problems I would walk from.
Additionally the location is key. I hate sloped yards, not nicely kept neighbors (ie- if your neighbor has a junk pile, I am not buying your house).
The point is that every person is going to have their own list of things that make a house not for them. Many of which you can not change, some you can.
Good luck!!
yes, grow a thicker skin.
it's not personal. it's business. different people have different needs, especially when it comes to an expensive purchase in which you'll live. just because your house has met all of your needs perfectly doesn't mean it will meet mine perfectly or even well enough that i'd want to put in an offer.
there are a lot of things about the house that might not bother you but might be dealbreakers for others. if the feedback is about things you can't change (location, floor plan too open, floor plan not open enough, etc.), then really don't take it personally. the right person will come along eventually.
good luck selling soon.
This x1000. I know it's hard since you've invested so much in your house, but it should be strictly a business transaction. Better to learn that now before the actual negotiation starts. At this stage of the game, try not to think of it as "your house and your memories" anymore but as something you want to promote, show off and eventually sell. Good luck!
You know that commercial that's running (no idea for what product, LOL) where there is an expectant couple looking at homes, list the things in the first house that are just awful, then continue to shop around and are shown truly questionable homes? They end back up at home #1 and love it.
That was my husband and myself.
I did not like the place we moved into - a rental. Not my style, not the area I wanted to be in, etc. We looked for two years prior to moving into this area (the rental) and eventually offered the owner to buy the place after an additional year looking. It's been six months and while the things that drove me crazy still drive me crazy, I love the things I love and will have a hard time not comparing our "next" place with those positives.
Buying a home is no small investment, so couples (or at least one member of the couple) will likely be looking to shred the place apart to break it down into is it really worth *their* buying/investing...it has nothing to do with being personal. We found two homes that we liked- adored, really. But there were certain things that we couldn't work around, and they weren't easy or inexpensive fixes, and had nothing to do with the taste/style of the owners. We had a pushy REA on those, so I suppose we had to be harsher to get our points across. Still, there was another house that was just a mess, architecturally speaking, but I loved it enough that I truly tried to push for it...we missed out on it, but glad we didn't overpay (and it was on the low end during the economic burst).