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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Dreading Thanksgiving
I'm now dreading thanksgiving. I was really looking forward to it. After everything with my divorce, and my brother having cancer, I was looking forward to some family time. We all havent been in the same house together since April. My dad and brother have been fighting and my dad kicked him out of our parents house (dad is having a hard time dealing with my brother's cancer). I offered to have Thanksgiving at my house that way my brother would feel comfortable, and dad couldnt start anything with him at my house. Everyone was all for it until today. I texted my brother "cant wait to see you tomorrow. love you" and recieved a text back "it should be common sense why would i wanna eat in a house of sin with a foreiner thankgiving is a time for family not to show off your new boyfriend and promote your f**k fest." I had told my mom that the guy that I had been dating for about a month was going to stop by and she was really excited about it. Apparently my brother has other ideas. He is not a foreigner (why that would make a difference anyway i dont know). I called my mom and told her that she could just have thanksgiving at her house, and I wasnt coming. It is bad enough that my dad is mad at me for not telling them what was going on before my marriage got to the point of divorce, and apparently my brother thinks i should have stayed married to the drug addict who couldnt get a job to save his life, and caused the misscarriage of his baby. I was so excited for this year, and now I am just dreading it. I dont want to go to my parents, I dont want to deal with my family at this point. I feel like I have lost my entire family. I guess I made the right decision about going to vegas with friends over christmas.
Re: Dreading Thanksgiving
Wow, your brother sounds like a tool. I say you stay home with the new boy and have a f**k fest.
I wish I could honestly say that it was the cancer that turned him like this. The past 2 years, he hasnt really wanted anything to do with anyone. he was getting into alot of trouble, and there were a couple of times I would have to bail him out. But after he had gotten home from his chemo/radiation treatments, we had started getting closer. I didnt bring up the misscarriage or the divorce to him, becuase he was dealing with his own stuff and I didnt want to add to his. He even told my mom that I didnt have to take my week with him my last turn becuase he wanted me to concentrate on getting me better and getting through the divorce. He has been shutting people out more lately, but I dont know what his issue is. I have tried to help him, and have sided with him against my dad(which inturn makes my dad mad at me for siding with my brother who is also fighting with my dad).I dont know if it is becuase the guy I have been seeing actually gets along with my dad (where as my XH never did).
No advice but just wanted to say that your situation sucks!! (((hugs))))
Hopefully your brother pulls his head out of his ass and stops acting like such a douchebag.
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Wow, I'm so sorry that this happened. What a way to ruin a holiday. I think it's totally justified that you do not want to be part of this craziness.
Do you mind if I ask --- how did your ex cause a miscarriage?
He insisted on me Unloading shingles out of the back of the pickup and when I refused he threw a bundle at me and told me to catch that it wouldn't hurt me or the baby to unload them. I stumbled back with the bundle and it landed on my stomach. Less than 24hours later I misscarried. He left a couple of days later and 2 months after that i filed for divorce. He didn't want to work thing out and would rather do drugs instead of concentrating on what was going on
um, holyyy sh!t. i'm so sorry. heartbreaking.