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How normal is it for DH to lose his eh-hem...
erection? In my past relationships I recall this happening infrequently. However with my new BF it seems to be happening a lot. However since the relationship is so new we do have sex very frequently so maybe that is part of it. I don't know. I just wonder if I should be concerned or not.
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Re: How normal is it for DH to lose his eh-hem...
More backstory will help. If he is inexperienced sexually, it may be a psychological issue.
it may also be an indicator something else is physiologically wrong. In that case he needs to see a doc if he's losing his erection/having erectile problems very frequently. He may have a possible circulatory issue, a cardiac issue, a thyroid problem,a hormonal imbalance or the start of diabetes.
The penis is the dipstick to a man's health, same as a menstrual cycle is a "red flag" of a woman's health.
He needs to see a doc and find out what's happening. gl.
It could also be performance anxiety or stress or some other stressful factor in his life -- this is why he needs to see a doc to rule out any possibility of the issues I mentioned.
If those check out to be negative, then it's a psychological/stress issue --- he should see a sex therapist at that point.
I think it depends. How old is he? Is he a heavy drinker or smoker? There are many things that could comtribute to this...if he is relatively young (or even if he is older) and seemingly heavy he should get checked out, this could be a sign of heart problems.
You need not be overweight at all to have cardiac issues.
A friend of ours was in top shape and was a fitness nut. She had a myocardial infarction at 45.
There's a guy we know who was a stickler about exercise and diet; he ran, played tennis, rollerbladed and was an expert skiier.
He wound up having a quadruple bypass. He wasn't an old fart, either -- he was in his 40s when this happened.
Cardiac issues and circulatory issues can happen to anybody, at any weight, any age. You need not be overweight to have them.
Oops, I actually meant Healthy not heavy!
Is he on any medications? Anti depressants, anti anxiety meds, and I'm sure a bunch other can have ED as a side effect.
Yep...and there are docs that consider an ED patient a cardiac patient until proven other wise.
Does it really matter? is it any more normal for one over the other?
He is 45. Not overweight at all however he doesn't excercise much. For the most part it isn't a problem but occasionally it seems to be. For example, the other day I was giving him BJ and he didn't maintain. Which to me was odd because it seems like that would be the one thing that would for sure get a man going. He told me that sometimes I make him nervous still or that he can sense if I am not into it (I have been having issues since I am going thru a custoday battle of sorts and fairly recent break up). So he thinks it is a mental thing. Well I'll see how it goes and if it continues perhaps suggest he get a physical.
this alone is a good indicator that it's psychological.
as the wife of a man who suffers from psychological ED, i can tell you it is no easy thing to overcome. start taking care of it NOW, if sex is important to you. things like this take a very, very long time and a huge amount of effort on the part of both parties to resolve.
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Probably psychological because he knows you're not over your XH. You're probably not "into it".
Are you trying to have sex in your house while your DC is there? Perhaps he's not comfortable with that...