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I've lost 25 pound in 3 months
I was 142 lbs (in Sept), today hit 117 lbs. I'm 5'5
I have NEVER been in the teens. ever. My pre-pregnancy body hovered around 127 and I've spent 4 years trying to get back there since my last son was born (I gained 50lbs with my pgs). When I hit 127 it was bitter sweet -I'd finally made it but no longer had a DH to share that joy with.
Now I'm getting worried. I wanted to lose, I struggled to lose but not like this, not this fast (anyone see that movie Thinner??).
I have ZERO appetite, and I'm repulsed by things I used to love: chocolate, bread, wine, anything sweet. I read online to be sure to eat protein so I try to eat fish for dinner (now I'm worried about mercury levels!)
My neighbors have started to comment at the bus stop "You're shrinking!" and some are looking worried (only a couple know I'm getting divorced)
None of my clothes fit (even the pre-preg ones are too big) but I assume I'll gain some back so I don't want to spend $$ buying anything
Anyone else go through this? How long did it last? Did you get news clothes or just wait til your weight rebounded?
Re: I've lost 25 pound in 3 months
Yes, I'm a little worried about that. At first I thought it was all stress related, but I know eating disorders are about control - something I definitely feel I have lost recently.
I dont eat breakfast (I KNOW that is bad, but I haven't in over 20 years -except when I was pg and forced myself to have cereal) I just drink coffee.
So lunch is a piece of fruit (banana), snack: apple (though they seem too sweet to me) or protein bar, dinner: baked fish and veggies. Aside from coffee I only drink water during the day.
Actually, having written this out I see several ways to get healthier... like adding 1/2 sandwich for lunch and rice to dinner...
more tips welcomed
I am not all that alarmed by your weight loss. I have lost 25 pounds in the last three months as well. But, I haven't been doing anything crazy. I think that you just get to a point where you are either happier, found a balance within your body, or you are just ready to let go of the extra weight.
I did the same thing my junior year of high school. I just dropped all kinds of weight without even trying.
I wouldn't worry too much at this point. As long as you are trying to eat regularly and eating things that are good for you, I think you're fine.
Just because you haven't eaten breakfast for 20+ years doesn't make it right. You need protein. A banana for lunch isn't so great either. Eating right and feeding your body = taking care of yourself. Are you in counseling? You need to be if you aren't because it doesn't appear that you are doing a good job taking care of yourself.
Have you ever read about the "divorce diet?"
I went through a similar situation. I weighed about 120 before getting pregant with DS (which is what I've weighed for the past decade, never dieted, worked out, or been really physical at all since college really...just a stagnant weight no matter what I guess), weighed about 145 when I was full term, and then the bottom dropped out. XH left, I was caring for a newborn all by myself, no family or friends around to help (because I continued to fake a happy life to everyone), I barely had time to eat. I was also exclusively nursing and being stressed to the max was an understatement.
I went back to work when DS was 13 weeks old and I had people tell me I looked too thin. None of my clothes fit and my pants were basically falling off of me. I was down to about 100 pounds. None of it was intentional weight loss. I ate whenever I had the chance, nothing sounded good, but I forced myself because I knew I needed the energy to care for DS, but I also had to keep my milk supply up, which was my real motivator.
I know it's hard, but you will need to force yourself to eat high calorie healthy foods. I still weigh less than I did pre preganancy, but I'm starting to get back to a healthier weight as my stress level has decreased and I am not nursing 100% of the time time any longer.
I did finally break down and buy clothes that actually fit me, but didn't break the bank to do so. I got sick of feeling like a slob at work wearing clothes that just hung on me instead of flattered me. Clothes that fit will increase your self esteem if nothing else.
Hang in there!
ETA: Apologies for the poor grammer - I'm too lazy to fix all the sentence structure issues I've got going on in here.
This. I eventually gained weight (about 1 year or so later) but I am still not at my "married weight". I was at 5'7", 118 at the time... way too thin for me.
Sounds like you're eating too few calories. A piece of fruit =/= lunch. You may want to talk to a registered dietitian (sp?) to get some tips on how many calories you need to maintain a healthy weight and what's a healthy way to get those calories. Since nothing much appeals to you, could you maybe add in some homemade smoothies? Banana + PB + yogurt + cocoa powder or fruit + yogurt + juice, maybe with some protein powder added in? That would help increase your calorie intake. 1-2 lbs a week is the maximum recommended rate of weight loss, so 25 lbs in 3 months is still within that, but your description of your meals has me worried.
I am your height. I was around 140 all through high school, although most of that was muscle, as I played sports a LOT. I ballooned up to 170 through college. After a wake-up call where a doctor told me that I was overweight (for the first time in my life), I started trying to lose weight. I'd eat a handful of cereal for breakfast in the morning, a salad plus some sort of side (carbs or protein) for lunch, and a salad plus some side for dinner. I also usually had a Hershey's kiss or two or a fun-sized candy bar for dessert in the evening. I got down to 110 lbs. Size 1s were falling off my butt. People told me I looked sick. I slowly gained the weight back, and I am currently at about 140 lbs (135 before Thanksgiving lol). I dance 3-5 times a week and keep active, and a lot of that weight is muscle. I would like to lose about 10 lbs, but BF and others think that I am at a healthy weight now. I wear a size 4 in pants, 6 in suit jackets, and I am generally happy with my body. I eat ~300 calories for breakfast, generally something high in both fiber and protein (eggs + whole wheat toast or fiber cereal + skim milk), a large lunch (usually leftovers + an apple) and kind of pick on stuff for dinner while at my second job (cheese or hummus with crackers or veggies).
You know you aren't eating enough. Fruit, fish, and veggies is not enough food. You need 1200 calories a day. You are barely getting half of that. Stop making excuses.
Eat well balanced meals - a good carb, protein, fruit or veggie with every meal. Even if you don't like breakfast, at least eat a yogurt of a cereal bar. Snack on some triscuits and hummus (Sabra brand tastes awesome and it is full of protein).
If you eat well balanced meals, you will gain a little back and be a healthy weight.
If you are concerned, there is a reason for it.
I know that stress can make you lose. You have to battle back a little. I am not saying go crazy, but add a few things. A protien shake in the morning, maybe a ensure or boost in the afternoon and sensible meals.
Try to keep it simple and work your way up. Forcing yourself to eat a way more all at once can backfire. Start by having a smoothie or shake in the morning and adding some protien to lunch. Eat more snacks instead of big meals. Add good fats to your cooking, like olive oil, salmon, avocado, flaxseeds, natural peanut butter.
I agree with pp that while it may not be time to panic, you are worried... so that says to me you think it is becoming a problem. Don't add to the stress, just keep it simple.
I dropped 20 pounds in 5 weeks following the news of my divorce! 3-4 months later, now that my shock/heartache is wearing off, my appetite is back. I did have pregnancy weight to lose and still could lose more and remain in my healthy weight so it was not too much of a concern for me. There were times, I couldn?t eat as I thought I would puke it right out. My anxiety meds completely helped with that.
Though, it is understandable why you are losing so much weight, please eat. Please take care of yourself. You will progress on your healing journey faster if you sleep, eat and take care of yourself.
I can relate to you. I've dropped about 10 lbs since I moved out. I find that when I'm by myself, I just don't care to eat as much for some reason. I'll have like a salad or veggies and quinoa or something. I've been at a pretty consistant weight all of my adult life, and I have no interest in losing more than 5lbs here or there. I've found that if I cook or go out with friends, it helps me eat more. Rather than cooking for H, I've been cooking for friends instead.
It is important to nurture your body. You're going through a big emotional change, which means you need to take time for you. Not eating might be a control issue, and I know I've had disordered eating tendencies in the past as well. What helps me is to think "I have control over my body, so I'm going to make it the healthiest, best body it can be. I'm going to take care of myself." It doesn't always work (as evidenced by the fact that I drank WAY too much this weekend and ate a ton of cheese), but that's the general motto. Good luck, and don't stress too much, just be kind to yourself.