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Worst family member award goes to.... ((Long))
my sister!! I thought about posting this anonymously but then decided since I have complained about my sister before and hopefully some of you remember what a train wreck she is that it would be easier than giving the whole back story.
So most recently my sister and her 2 daughters are living at home with my mom. My sisters 6 yr old car recently died (yup no regular maintenance on that thing). So she had to stop working and she has no one to take care of her kids. So she just collects WIC, food stamps, and welfare most likely.
Anyway, her and my mom arrived at the twins' party (we had a first birthday party for them at my aunt and uncles in NJ). They start bickering, and my older niece who is almost 4 starts just running a muck. Whatever, I had too much to deal with so I didn't notice. Well party went well, my sister was complaining about why won't Abby play with Kayla (my niece) and I just came out and told my sister that well Abby just doesn't like her since Kayla has no understanding of personal space and will just grab Abby.
So everyone leaves, my mom and sister are getting in the car. I go to get my chapstick from my purse and notice that almost $60 is gone from my wallet. I start freaking out cause I thought I lost it. But I remembered having it at the grocery store earlier in the day and had not gone into my wallet since. So I look all around and can't find it. In the back of my mind, I think... did my sister steal it??? No, there's no way she would take from me... So I couldn't find it and then ask my aunt and uncle, along with my grandmother who was there still if they think my sister could have taken it. My grandmother then says that whenever my sister comes over now she puts her purse away cause she has noticed money missing before.
So now I call my mother and ask her if she took any money, I didn't think she did, but heck I never know with my mom and sister. She says no, so I ask if she thinks my sister could have taken it. She said she'd get to the bottom of it. Well my mom calls me about 30 min later and informs me that she found $56 in my sister's jeans pocket. My sister claims my dad (who was at the party) gave her money. My mom calls my dad who says he absolutely did not give her any money, and my sister still wouldn't confess. Apparently my mom and sister got in a huge fight and she said she needs money to pay her friend for driving her around, blah blah blah blah. My mom also then finds out that my sister has been getting child support even though she said she wasn't.
I still have not called/texted my sister. I just don't even know what to say. To steal from me???? Plus everyone's purses were right there so now I worry that she stole from other people!! I don't want to call my family and DHs family and ask them if they are missing money. What do I say, "hey sorry my thief of a sister stole from you?" Ugh, how embarrassing!! My mom is besides herself and just doesn't know what to do. My mom is mailing the money back to me today.. I am so mad and disappointed at my sister. I work hard for my money and have 3 kids to feed. My DH is fuming at my sister... he couldn't stand her to begin with and this just put him over the edge..
Please someone tell me they have an awful family member too....lol
Re: Worst family member award goes to.... ((Long))
Last year, my MIL called me a "little wh0re biitch" and told DH there were plenty of other girls in CA (among other awful, hurtful disgusting things). She apologized to DH several MONTHS later, but I have yet to get a direct apology (never once has she said "Nicole, I am truly sorry" and DH doesn't understand why I still haven't forgiven her).
I'd much rather have had her steal some money from me! But that really does suck to have family do something like that. Hopefully something clicks for her soon and she gets it together!
wow, I wouldn't know how to react to that either if I was you. My immediate reaction would be to cut her right out of my life, but then again, it IS your sister. Tough situation. It says something about her as a person that she doesn't even feel embarrassed about the whole thing, she just made up excuses trying to justify her behavior.
And yes, I am sure ALL of us have a family member or two who are just as bad as your sister, maybe just in different ways. Don't feel bad
Ugh, I am so sorry. I can only imagine how hurt and frustrated you feel!
When SIL was still using, she stole money a lot... including from the father of her kids who needed that $$ to feed them. But she didn't have a clear head and could only think about getting the drugs... now, however, she's clean and a totally different person. Still, the embarassment and hurt I felt every time it happened is stuck in my memory.
Does she get tough love from anyone? If not, I might step up and be that person. If nothing else, you need to protect your girls and your well-being, and if that means majorly changing the relationship, then I would do it.
*hugs*
Agree with Katie. It says a lot about her as a person that even when caught red-handed she doesn't confess or admit wrong-doing. I would have a really hard time if one of my siblings did that to me!
We don't have anyone like your sister in my family - our bad family members tend to be alcoholics. A whole other kind of fun!
Also agreed. It doesn't matter how hard up I am, I can't IMAGINE stealing from anyone, much less family. Is it possible she has a drug or a drinking problem?
Hopefully nobody else has money turn up missing. I can't imagine how difficult or embarrassing that would be - maybe even more so than realizing she stole from her own sister. Like you said, you have a family to support too, you're not some major high-roller, the whole thing is inexcusable.
And yes, I have DH's family - lazy and totally mean to each other. I can't stand being around them. I enjoyed thanksgiving with his family much like one would enjoy a wasp sting or being rear-ended.
All of this. I am so sorry, Melissa. I can only imagine how terrible you feel since it is your sister, and I certainly hope she didn't take anyone else's money. Big hugs to you. I hope that she gets her act together, and realizes what she is doing could get her in a lot of trouble, not to mention that she will lose the trust and support from loved ones.
That's awful. I would have a hard time not cutting her out of my life, too. At least until she gets her life in order (if ever).
Sorry you had to deal with that on your girls' birthday!
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I'm with these ladies. Lots of hugs sent your way.... I can't imagine being in your shoes & having that be the situation with my sister.
When I was younger, we always put things away when my cousin visited because money and valuables would disappear. He was a teenager, but old enough to know it was wrong. This is the same cousin who is on wife number 3, marriage number 4 and has 3 kids that my aunt essentially takes care of and another on the way.
I'm sorry your sister is sh!tty, but you are not alone. Good luck!