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Am I wrong?

If so please tell me. I'm trying to be diplomatic here. 

So, you guys know that when we went OOT for Thanksgiving I asked a friend to stop in and check on the cats - only one day just to make sure they had food/water. We talked via Facebook and she said she'd be glad to stop in, just to email her the address since she didn't save it the time she was at my house. No problem, I emailed her that day and assumed all was good. 

Fast forward to today - I come home and the gift we left for her is still here. I messaged her on FB and said "Hey, I noticed you weren't at the house while we were gone. If you couldn't stop in, no problem, but I would have appreciated a heads up". 

She texts me that she never got my email and assumed I'd asked someone else. So I texted back that that didn't really make sense - why would I ask someone else when she confirmed she would do it? She apologized and I said apology accepted since I really just care that the cats are okay. I also said that I shouldn't have asked her in the first place since we weren't close friends anyway (even though she's been to my house and I just went to her bday dinner (with gift) last week). I think I was just trying to see her point of view.

Anyway, after texting with her I burst into tears b/c I have none of "my" people here, which is besides the point, but still. My question is - do I have any right to be mad at her?? My H says he sees her point if she didn't get the email, but my point is that that really doesn't make sense at all. If I was watching someone's pet and didn't get the details I'd be sure to ask for them - not just assume the person asked someone else. 

Am I completely off base and just emotional??

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Re: Am I wrong?

  • No, you're not wrong.  If I commited to checking on someone's cat I'd start calling/texting and asking questions if I didn't get their address.  But that's just how I am.  I can't stand the thought of an animal going without because I was being a lazy asss.  She should have asked you about it and not just assumed you found someone else.  That's just rude and inconsiderate. 
  • Wow I would be just as upset. And I would have reacted the same way. I would have texted you to make sure you were all set or whatever.

    I often have my neighbors upstairs watch the dogs for us when we go away. I usually text them in the morning to thank them again for watching the dogs. I always hope that this text also serves as a friendly reminder for them so they don't forget!

    Hindsight is 20/20. I hope she realizes what an asss she was for doing that to you.

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  • I just realized how long that was. My bad! I so wish I had texted her to remind her, but I didn't want to bug her. Definitely won't ask again. I feel better about being mad now though. Usually H has a short fuse so when he didn't seem that bothered since she didn't get my email I 2nd guessed myself.
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  • I assume the cats are fine?? Good thing cats are fairly self sufficient. 
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    I assume the cats are fine?? Good thing cats are fairly self sufficient. 

    Yes, they were fine. I left enough food & water out for probably 2 weeks just in case. If we had dogs I absolutely would have texted her to check in - even if I thought I was annoying! 

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  • that would bother me.
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  • I would have been annoyed!!


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  • i'd be upset if i were you. 
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  • I would definitely be upset. Something fairly similar happened to me once and I was pissed.
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  • That would bother me too.  Glad your cats are ok! 
  • No you are not wrong. I'd be upset too.
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  • I'd be annoyed/upset.  Glad the cats are alright though!
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  • I do agree with losocute if someone asked me I would follow up with a call,text, or email now if I didn't get a response from all three things then I would have assumed you found someone else but if she would've done that she would've gotten a response.

    But to play devils advocat I'm such an OCD mess that I probably would've text her and been like I sent you a message but just in case it didn't go through here's my address...let me know if you still need helping finding it haha but I would've assumed she got it since she said just email her the address.

    The only thing that may upset her is if when you texted her you said you shouldn't have asked her since you guys aren't close friends but I couldn't figure out if you were just giving us back story or not.

    Do you have a vet that does boarding?  When we can't ask friends we have an excellent animal hospital so I feel really good about Parle staying there for a couple days since if something did happen they could take care of him or operate right away

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    I do agree with losocute if someone asked me I would follow up with a call,text, or email now if I didn't get a response from all three things then I would have assumed you found someone else but if she would've done that she would've gotten a response.

    But to play devils advocat I'm such an OCD mess that I probably would've text her and been like I sent you a message but just in case it didn't go through here's my address...let me know if you still need helping finding it haha but I would've assumed she got it since she said just email her the address.

    The only thing that may upset her is if when you texted her you said you shouldn't have asked her since you guys aren't close friends but I couldn't figure out if you were just giving us back story or not.

    Do you have a vet that does boarding?  When we can't ask friends we have an excellent animal hospital so I feel really good about Parle staying there for a couple days since if something did happen they could take care of him or operate right away

    Technically I said that because I was annoyed so I was probably being snippy towards her. Not the most mature response ever, but oh well!

    My cats would probably freak about staying at the kennel. I think I'd rather just pay a pet sitter. 

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  • I don't think you're wrong to be upset. However, I would have texted her to make sure she received the email. Glad the kitties are OK!
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