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If I have to hear about one more thing I missed out on...
over the last 4 days I am going to scream!!!! I have to work every other holiday and normally it isn't too bad. You work the day of the holiday but the day before and the day after you are usually off. Not this time. I had to work Wed, Thurs, Sat and Sun. My MIL pissed me off so much with rubbing in all of the stuff I was going to miss. I guess my feelings are just hurt and I feel really left out. I thought they would at least text me on Thursday to say Happy Thanksgiving. Then when I didnt show up at her house at 6am on black Friday she called me to say I messed up the tradition. Um... first of all no one told me what the plan was. Secondly the tradition was to go to the stores when they open. Which I did with my mom. She told me they were meeting for cocktail and happy hour at 8pm. I told her that I wouldn't be able to make it b/c it was too late since I had to be at work early Sat morning. They called me every 15 mins from 8pm on to give me a hard time about not going out. I keep telling myself that it was b/c they missed me and they wanted me to be a part of it, but it just was super annoying and making me feel worse.
The icing on the cake was my MIL FB status tonight. It was all about the fun she had with her FAMILY and FRIENDS. That this is what TRADITIONS are about (her words and capitalization). I know I'm being hypersensitive but it feels like that status is aimed right at me considering her last status update was in march. She was a nurse in a hospitals for 20 years and had to work holidays and weekend. I just think she would be a little more sensitive to it.
Sorry this was a long woa is me post.
Re: If I have to hear about one more thing I missed out on...
Isn't your MIL the one that's famous for her passive aggressive FB statuses??
I can see how you'd be upset. I get very upset when I miss holiday stuff in Louisiana when we're in Ohio. I almost cried last year just looking at pictures. I'm sure some of it is just you being sensitive to it, but she sounds like she's going over the top. Hopefully now that the holiday is over she'll just drop it. If she says anything else to you I'd say something.
I would be upset about it too! It's not your fault that you have to work...she should be proud of you for having a job and a work ethic that stops you from going out for drinks before going to work.
Being a nurse that worked in hospitals, yor MIL should know what you are going through and shouldn't be doing that to you. Hope she stops soon.
Exactly she knows better and the calling and texting every few minutes was uncalled for.
Since she told you that you broke the tradition I would agree that status was aimed at you and very inappropriate.
Like the pp said do you feel comfortable saying anything?
I wouldn't bring up the status persay just say that you really wished you could've been there for the tradition because you love that tradition you have but with work this year it just wasn't possible and next year you'll be able to do it.
My MIL is super passive aggressive, very type A and controlling. Don't get me wrong she can be a wonderful giving and caring person but its her way or the highway. She is super wound up in the idea that everyone needs to be included, and present or whatever is going on is a failure (birthday dinners, ANY holiday, vacations ect.). Its something she needs to deal with b/c she doesn't have the family that work mon-fri 9-5. In addition to mine and B's crazy schedule, my SIL is a surgeon in training, and my BIL is a cop. She got so bent out of shape last year because we couldn't find a day when all 4 off us where able to get together to celebrate Christmas.
My SIL finds out in the next 2 weeks where she is going for her Fellowship, and I'm secretly hopping its California. I feel bad for her b/c as guilty as my MIL makes me feel she is a million times worse to my SIL. She is a resident working 80hrs a week and hour ( or more depending on DC traffic) away from her family. She wants to get away and I can't blame her.
I've said something to her before and B gets on her all the time. She just doesn't want to hear it. I also think she may have been a bit tipsy last night when she posted that status and I know she had been drinking when they were out at happy hour. It only takes 2 martini's for her to get annoyingly drunk. LOL
Agreed, that really sucks BMW