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Mom's with 1, feeling pressure to have 2
I am so happy with our little threesome and comfortable in our routine, but I am definitely feeling pressure around the board from everyone, parents, family (DH even), coworkers, friends, Jennrs (LOL!) to go ahead for #2.
Now everyone's ploy is that, Zac is getting too old, the gap is growing too wide.
I'm scared shitless to have another.
I'm also somewhat "obsessed" with losing weight, so much so that I don't want to gain weight even for a pregnancy.
Now everyone's ploy is that, Zac is getting too old, the gap is growing too wide.
I'm scared shitless to have another.
I'm also somewhat "obsessed" with losing weight, so much so that I don't want to gain weight even for a pregnancy.
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Re: Mom's with 1, feeling pressure to have 2
I'm scared shitless too. :-)
But, if you're not ready, then don't do it. You have to be in the right place for you, not everybody else.
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"A baby nursing at a mother's breast is an undeniable affirmation of our rootedness in nature." - David Suzuki
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His grandma asked me when we were going to have another- while I was still on the delivery table. DH called her and she said she wanted to talk to me. She had to tell me it's not good to have an only child. I wanted to ask if they could finish stitching me up, but I didn't.
It will be right when it's right. It's amazing how many people feel the right to run your life or tell you what to do once you have kids. Smile, nod and work that birth control.
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If you're not ready, then wait. It's not a big deal if there's an age gap. Just think how helpful Z will be with a bigger age difference.
That being said, I'm within weeks of having a second, and I'm still wondering if we really wanted to change our family of 3 dynamic. Way too late now, but the fear of change is still there.
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Obviously I have a ways to go to know what it's like to have one, but we just talked about BC post-baby today, and I really want to wait years.. like 3-5... before we consider a second. I'm not worried about the gap-a close family will be a close family, regardless in my opinion. Financially, I would feel better waiting but I also have some goals I want to accomplish after this baby (physically/fitness/career) and I will need some time.
Plus, pregnancy has been hard for me-I was sick every day until 20 weeks, and some of those days were just god-awful. Obviously it will be worth it, I know that, but I'm nervous about my ability to handle that illness with a toddler. (On that note, Star, you are my hero in this respect because I know you've been feeling awful. You get major props-seriously). Either way, it makes me think longer about waiting.
Same here. I'm so excited for Lily's arrival but at the same time am starting to panic slightly over all of the changes & balancing everything now that it's getting closer & closer.
I say no hurry.... When you're ready, you're ready
Not trying to change your mind, but what happens in one pregnancy won't always happen in the next.
I was sick until week 26 with Nolan- every.single.day. And this time? Maybe sick 5 days total. And I know of many others who will tell you the same thing.
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You'll know when you're ready - that's what I keep telling myself. I knew that I really didn't want 2U2 and honestly I didn't even start to start getting any 'new baby' twinges until very recently. It's like the start of the fever, lol.
We have certain things that we're hoping for. I'd like Jane to be closer to 3 when we have #2. I also don't want to be pregnant over the Summer if I can afford to be choosy sooooo, we'll probably start trying in 2012 and hope for a Mar, April, May or June baby. Very specific, I know. We'll see how badly my body laughs at me when we get to trying.
Thanks for the shout out, Cass.
I was hoping that this time would be different (sick with Natalie daily until 25 weeks, finally stopped puking at 30 weeks) but I don't know if it will be or not. I hope you are finally doing better! It's worth it! 
Trickey, you gotta do you. Zac will survive (and even thrive) by being the main focus/ only child. And that's not to say he couldn't be incredibly close with a much younger sibling. My sister is my BFF hetero lifemate and we are 6 years apart. There is nothing wrong with planning your family according to your own agenda-- in fact, that's how it should be done. You are young, you have time. Do what feels right.
I know baby #2 will come much like Zac did - randomly. We're they type who if we say, "when we're ready", we'll never be ready, so one day we'll just have to throw caution to the wind.
LOL!
As an only child I always said I would never have an only myself. I know Zac will get a sibling, and I do have the fever, as there are a lot of pregnant people around me, but I also am full of nerves. There are enough of them that I can still talk myself out of another right this moment.
Ah, now that I've rationalized that decision....
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This is us exactly (Wow, Megan, I am totally on the same page as you today!)
Several of my friends that had little ones after Liam were born are now pregnant again, and I think that I am ready but I am honestly not quite there yet. I love my Liam time right now and I think we are hoping to stick to the plan of trying next Summer/Fall. Honestly, I would love Baby #2 to arrive in Spring/early Summer 2013.