Trouble in Paradise
Motzie
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Is this odd to you? Clicky polle
Re: Is this odd to you? Clicky polle
It may be different since it's a company Christmas party, but I don't think it's a big deal.
In college, my roommate took her (female) best friend to our sorority formal because she couldn't find a date and didn't want to go alone. It wasn't weird, and she had a 'partner' there so she wasn't odd man out. Maybe the girl just doesn't want to be the single in a party full of couples.
Yeah. Just adding it to my list of weird things about this chick.
I was going to bring one of my good lady friends to my company party. I'm single, not dating anyone, and don't want to go alone. Luckily, an ex offered to be my date so that will be a fun night.
But no...it's not odd. Is she supposed to go alone?
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
You mean, gasp, like a grown up? Yes.
Why wouldn't she go alone? She goes to work alone every day.
I think it's strange, Motzie. I also think that Bliss begging the company of an ex to go to her company party is strange. I am trying to decide which bothers me more.
Definitely the ex. I can see the friend. Who else would you make snarky comments to about the ugly sweaters and the drunken co-workers? I can see that it would be quite awkward to go all alone if everyone else has a date.
I don't get taking an ex. I guess I still don't get the point of being "friends" with an ex.
I think it depends on the work culture of your company. For example, very few people even bring spouses to our work Christmas Party, so I wouldn't feel comfortable bringing a friend at all. If it's typical of people to bring a plus one, then I wouldn't feel bad about bringing a friend.
I see this as a no biggie.
I went to H's Christmas party Saturday and two of his coworkers brought their friends/roommates, and it was tons of fun. One of my coworker regularly brings her best friend to Christmas parties, etc, or the trips organized for lawyers and spouses. I think it is perfectly alright, as most of us are coupled up and do things as couples, and she wants to be able to hang out with someone too!
The reason I think it's odd is that one of the reasons to have a holiday party or company picnic or whatever that involves people's families, is that it helps build a sense of camaraderie and extended community among coworkers. Bringing your roommate or random friend from college doesn't contribute towards that, any more than you'd bring someone like that to a wedding.
And it's hardly as if you won't know anyone there if you go alone. You'll know your coworkers.
In all my years of going to work holiday parties I have never seen anyone do this, ever. Your employer extending the party invitation to spouses/SOs =/= any random person you know is allowed to get drunk on the company dime, and honestly if I were a higher-up footing the bill, I'd remember who brought randoms to drink my free swill.
I brought my best friend to a company holiday party a few years ago. I never once considered it might be frowned upon and as a matter-of-fact, it helped build comraderie because meeting my best friend gave my co-workers some insight into me as a person.
The only time I would roll my eyes is if it is an intimate dinner for a small company. My current job has a huge hotel banquet with casino tables and dancing for their holiday party, so a friend-date wouldn't even be noticed.