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WWYD? re: XH making continuous contact
It seems XH's contact continues to increase in frequency lately and I'm not sure why.
A few weeks ago, he flat out asked me if we could hook up. Shocked, I said "you have a girlfriend, that is so inappropriate" as it was the only thing that came to my mind at that split second. His response? "What if I didn't?" 
Then told me that he's only with his gf because he "has to be with someone" and "can't be alone." (Lucky girl eh?)
Fast forward to now - he texts to "see how B is" all.the.time. This past week, in a matter of 5 hours, I had 2 missed calls, a voicemail, and 2 texts from him. Thursday, I received a text saying "Happy Thanksgiving CPA. Give that boy of ours extra hugs and kisses from Daddy! 
" It's almost as if he feels the need to contact me so that I won't forget he exists, especially on holidays. I'm annoyed by all of it, but the more I ignore all the messages, the more he sends. I don't even think it's about DS most of the time - DS is his excuse to contact ME. Lots of exclamation points, smiley faces, and to me - red flags. He's not nice "just because" - there's always a reason behind it.
I've told him that if there is something he needs to know, I will tell him. I will tell him if B is sick, how his dr. appts. go, and anything else necessary. I will not report to him daily for the next 17 years. It falls on deaf ears and I turn into the bad guy.
Any advice on how to handle this?
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Re: WWYD? re: XH making continuous contact
You could always consult your lawyer as to how much communication you HAVE to keep with him. He's obviously abusing the priviledge. I would think that you might be able to get it strictly to email, or that he can only text and not call. I don't know how it all works, exactly but I don't think that you have to keep every avenue wide open like that. I agree with ignoring but, like you said, it's not really helping.
As cliche as it sounds, try not to let it get to you. If he texts about DS respond as shortly and curtly as possible, everything else just ignore. You have the power to not let it bother you. Likely that's all he wants anyways (is to bother you).
Agreed. You know he's playing a game, don't let yourself fall into it. Keep anything about DS brief, and just roll your eyes and ignore the rest. He's looking to evoke some sort of response, so ignore, ignore, ignore.
As annoying as it is, the best thing you can do is simply ignore, ignore, ignore. You don't need to update him on DS unless he askes a direct question. Which, from the sounds of it, he's not doing. Go ahead and let those "Happy Thanksgiving! Give that boy of ours a big hug and kiss from daddy!" texts go unanswered.
By telling him to stop contacting you unless it's about DS or telling him that he's crossing the line, that's just adding fuel to the fire. It's giving him a reaction and that's what he's looking for.
Ignore ignore ignore! Eventually he'll get bored with it.
Agree with asking a lawyer.
Also, set a strict rule. You have told him that you will call if there is any news regarding health, school, or anything else important. Maybe you can do a weekly email with a phtoto? Beyond that ignore.
I did this with my XMIL. She was not constantly calling but when she did she never wanted to hang up because she felt like she never knew what was going on. I told her I would send out a short email every week to keep her in the loop. It has been great for both of us. She is less "clingy" and I do not have to actually talk to her... lol. Plus it leave a solid trail just in case they ever say I am keeping DD from them. win/win!
It is seriously like 3-5 sentences, super easy.
I agree with this completely. If you respond in any way, shape or form you're just adding fuel to the fire. If all those pointless texts and calls go unanswered, he'll see that its getting him nowhere and eventually he'll give up.
Honestly, I'd ask him to stop and tell him that if he has concerns or questions to send you an e-mail and that you will respond via e-mail.
I only communicate with Ex via e-mail. He used to text me non-stop, and I asked him to stop. He didn't, so I sent him one last text and told him that I was blocking his number. He knows better than to call because I won't pick up. E-mail is great because there's no way for false accusations to be made about things that have supposedly been said (which Ex did ALL.THE.TIME). You have no obligation to be in constant contact with him.
At our first court date Ex asked if he could text me. I said, no, there's a reason that I blocked your number in the first place. That was it. End of story. No judge is going to make you be in constant contact. You have a duty to keep him informed of important matters and to communicate regarding visitation but that's it.