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xp: Christmas gifts and SAHM's
I know there is a few of us here who are SAHM's and I was wondering about christmas gifts or actually any gifts.Is the money you buy H's gift with money he earned or money you had previously earned and saved? If you use a credit card, is it a credit card your H pays?I ask because sometimes H will say "don't worry about getting me stuff, like his bday or valentines day". He says if there is something he wants he'll get it cause all the money comes from the same place, but I like getting him stuff and hate when he says don't worry about it.
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Re: xp: Christmas gifts and SAHM's
we collected change over the year and we just wrapped the change up... we saved $140 in change so we are dividing it and using that. as soon as new years hits we'll save again...
in the past we both worked but would use our money to buy each other gifts... we have one bank account so usually we give each other a budget and don't go over it. anything big we want we ask our parents...
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See this is my first Christmas as a SAHM and it feels a little weird. Hopefully as time goes on that will change.
This exactly...it took me a looooong time to get used to the whole SAHM gig and DH making all the money for the family. But Kendra's right, it's OUR money, not his. It took me awhile to see that.
With that said, DH and I don't really exchange gifts. This year we are getting a Tablet, but we are sharing it, so it's a family gift. All other gifts we buy are really just for A. For our birthday's now we just go out to dinner and have a night out.
I think the last time this was discussed I was in the minority in that I never bought MH anything for birthdays or Christmas when I was SAHM. Even though the money he earned was very much ours, I just didn't see the point in spending any money on him. What I didn't mention then is that he isn't the type of man to not buy himself when he wants it so even now, when I do have my own money to spend on him I am hard pressed for gift ideas. If he was the kind of guy who hated to shop or whatever I could totally see myself getting him some clothes, cologne, watch, wallet or video game. He needs nothing so it seemed like a waste to buy him something for the sake of giving him something to open, KWIM? Even a framed picture of MiniMags wouldn't have worked bc he didn't have an office at work until this year.
Oh wait, I did have boudoir photos done for his birthday one year. He loved those.
What I discovered last week is that there are some SAHMs who do not receive gifts from their husbands. I give that a tremendous side eye with an extra generous helping of WTF?
It has always been our money. I spend what I want as does he. We try to use cash for gifts to keep surprises or he just tells me what he wants and He or I order it.
He once made a comment about his money and I sent him a bill for childcare... $2,100 a week. He shut the F up.
That is brilliant and I will be keeping that idea in my back pocket lol
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Haha love it!!!
ahahaha. thats funny