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So apparently D looks like my ExH...
I'm still not sure if I see it, but EVERYONE says it. The first person to say it was my twin sister. I showed her a pic while I was visiting her in Seattle and her first words were, "You know who looks like right?" I'm like no.... she told me to show her boyfriend and his comment was "Oh my gosh he looks just like ExH"
What?! I really couldn't see it at first and still don't see it that much. I showed my Mom the same pic over Thanksgiving and those were her first words too, along with my Dad. I showed my friend the pic and she totally thought it was pic of exH and I together. I'm just flabbergasted that I have never noticed it... ever. I even looked at one of our wedding photos and I guess if I really looked I can kind of see a resemblance.
Oh well, at least he doesn't act like him 
Still a little weird though...
Re: So apparently D looks like my ExH...
My guess is that you're not seeing the resemblance because you don't want to.
Everyone says that DS looks exactly like DH - and NEITHER of us see it. I think DS looks like his side of the family- but I actually see his dad and brother in DS more than I do DH!!!
But then again, there are people that have said to my STEPmother that I look just like her, and from that, that DS takes after her. And there is NO blood relation there at all....
So, I actually take "he looks just like ___" w/ a grain of salt, sometimes. I KNOW DS doesn't look like me, so I think because of that, people "see" a stronger resemblance to DH than is actually there.
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Looks like him like, "he's tall, dark hair, dark eyes" looks like him, or is a spitting image of your ex?
I think we all have types. But if he is a spitty image, that would be weird IMO.
ETA: Who is D? Your son or your new BF? If you are talking about your son, then ignore my comment, ha ha.
D is my boyfriend... and physically my type is dark hair/dark eyes (yummy) and D and exH both have blue eyes and blondish/brown hair.D is definitely taller and more muscular than the exH.
I'm such a visual a person so I would have thought I would have noticed a resemblance when I first met him...it was a totally casual, not thinking about going on a date kind of meeting.
I certainly don't hate my exH so I don't think it's a matter of not wanting to see it... just interesting that everyone sees it but not me. They say it's the eyes.
I mentioned it to D and he think it's funny and that I must have really great taste in sexy, good-looking men.
That's funny, but often people do (or don't) think someone looks like someone else unless they know the person. Maybe he doesn't look like your XH to you because you know him so well and they're so very different. I'm sure if your sister or BIL got to know him, they would think that he looked less like your X.
People who know me and my mom or me and my SIL say we look alike. Both my mom and SIL have red hair and are much taller than me (I'm a 5'4" blonde). While we look nothing alike, we all love big sunglasses, are very gregarious and have similar manneurisms that make people say we look alike.
In short, I think it's often in the context of behavior that make people think that others do or don't look alike. Although it is kind of funny that you chose someone who physically similar to your X!
I think how we view a person's appearance has A LOT do to with our feelings of that person.
A handsome man isn't that handsome if you know he is a complete jerk (or a not-so-good-looking man is more attractive if you really like his personality)
So you probably see your Ex differently since you aren't attracted to him as a human being
LOL!
No, but now that you mention it, yes!
I would also like to say that I've seen one or two pictures of The Artist where he looks like an old BF of mine. Not XH, but an older BF. It freaked me out a little for a second at first, but now it's NBD. Their personalities are so different that it's almost laughable to compare them, even if it's just physically.
And it was only those one or two pictures. Normally, I cannot see a resemblance.
I think a lot of times people see resemblances that aren't there. Though if that many people are seeing it I would guess it probably is. People always say H and my brother look alike. The only thing I see is their hair color is similar.
Other than that H is a lot broader and has larger features, they generally look nothing alike.
Exactly! LOL! I PPs are right, I don't see the resemblance because their personalities are SO completely different. It will be interesting once more of my friends/family meet him if they'll change their opinions.
And I did date someone who was my physical type and he was such a douche that he quickly became very unattractive to me...
It's interesting in that I photograph a lot of wedding couples where the bride is beautiful and the guy is average, but it's in the way that he treats her that makes him so undeniably attractive...