Trouble in Paradise
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How was your turkey day weekends?
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Re: How was your turkey day weekends?
It was totally food coma-licious, how was yours?
My sisters and BIL were in town so we mostly just did the family gathering thing at my parents' house. BF, BIL, my uncle and dad went shooting on Fri. afternoon. Sisters, mom and I shopped some on Friday but didn't go out early or really have a specific plan, we just moseyed and found some good deals.
Sunday, my sisters left, and BF and I took the little dude to the children's museum. He got a kick out of it and we got out of the house so that was a win. I got a call Sunday morning from BF's number and when I said hello I heard, "Gocky? You coming over to my house now?" Hehe.
I made it through to the other side and that's all I have to say on that topic.
You?
Turkey day was awesome! DH and I hosted friends from around the area that weren't traveling this year (all of us had to work Friday). We cooked our very first turkey, and it turned out amazing. It wasn't nearly as much work as I thought it would be, and I would gladly do it again.
The weekend was just an average weekend. Went out with friends Saturday night, enjoyed a date night with DH on Sunday.
Mine was good. We ended up going over to FI's friend's house on turkey day, which was a nice break as usually he comes over to our place. We ate and drank and were merry after our turkey trot. We got our Christmas tree and enjoyed doing a whole lot of nothing.
It was fun. Wednesday night we prepped food with my mom, sister and her boyfriend. It was really fun, cooking, drinking wine and listening to music. Thursday flew by and we had a lazy day Friday.
Saturday I transported for a rescue, then went to an antique store and took the pups to see Santa at the local humane society. It was hilarious. Sunday I refinished an old table and then we relaxed and went to bed early.
Every weekend should be a 4-day weekend.
It had its ups and downs. Cooked a feast for Thanksgiving dinner, saw some friends. On Friday we spent the day decorating for Xmas (and at Home Depot). I pulled an Andy Dwyer and fell into a pit outside of the house - the previous owners dug a makeshift storm drain for the gutters and covered it with mesh (which then was covered with leaves and mulch). Well, that mesh doesn't hold much weight. In fact, none at all. I fell like a ton of bricks straight into the ground. My left leg is all busted up (my thigh is literally a giant bruise) and my right wrist is sprained from trying to catch myself. Based on the hole and what was down there, it's a miracle I didn't break my leg. BF was awesome, of course. He helped me into the garage and cleaned out my wound while I cried like a baby.
Then, to make things even better, the toilet in the downstairs bathroom backed up to the point that BF had to call a plumber. Turns out the main pipe has a smaller pipe threaded through it (WTF?) and there are roots growing through it. Lovely. Two weeks into the house and he's already experiencing the joys of home ownership.
Other than those two doozies, we had a relaxing weekend. I needed some time off from work.
Dupe
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
It was... interesting.
First of all, we had done Fauxgiving with the ILs the weekend before (it is cheaper for BIL and SIL to fly up the week before). So, on the actual holiday, we were planning on going to my dad and stepmom's. When I called my dad to tell him this, he informed me that stepmom's brother would be in attendance. Now, there is a LOT of backstory about stepmom's brother. He basically screwed my stepmom out of money, refused to pay rent on the place she bought because God FORBID he rent an apartment on his own like a normal adult. My H ended up having to evict him and there was a LOT of bad blood. He essentially then succeeded in making my stepmom out to be the bad guy and alienated her from her entire family. So I was not looking forward to having to keep my mouth shut and just pretend like everything was okay.
Well, he wasn't the one I eventually opened my mouth to.
We're all sitting down to dinner and my uncle is sitting across from me. We're talking about the whole PennState thing and my uncle starts in with this story "so, I was at the gas station and these two f*gg*ts walk in". Right there I said "Do NOT use that word". His response is "but they are f*gg*ts" so I'm getting more incensed and say "you will NOT use that word in front of me". Finally he moves on from that and then basically says that he would not allow his dog around this gay guy because "I know what those f*gg*ts do with animals"
And... you guys know the imoan rage. So you know what happened next.
It ended in me screaming "You are a disgusting human being... fvck you!" and stormed out of the house.
He tried to apologize to me later "I want to apologize to you... but I know guys like that". I basically said "nice fvcking apology" and again walked away.
Then later as I tried to explain to him why that kind of hatred is unacceptable, I said that people are killed and injured every day simply because of who they love. His response (while he's laughing at me like I'm crazy)? "That doesn't happen any more!" Then I realized that you obviously can't fix stupid and there was nothing I was going to say to this man to get him to realize how repulsive he was to me.
Fin.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Good for you, imoan. What a half-assed attempt at an apology!
OMG imoan. Good for you for not letting that bigotry slide like so many do.
My t-day was quite enjoyable and not at all eventful -- just the way I like it. I had been stressing about having my brother and his family over after hearing my mom's report of their weeklong trip to visit her, but for the few hours they were at our place, everything was fine and my niece was far more cute and charming than horrific.
Brother - 1, Mom - 0.
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Glad things worked out so well, Fuss!
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
I don't know if I can go into it without going off in a major way. I have gotten into full fledged screaming matches with this woman in my parents' home because she insisted that if gay marriage is legalized then bestiality will be legalized. There is simply no reasoning with a person so cracked in the head that they think Bob and Tim getting married is the same as Bob and Fido getting married, you know??
The sad part is that I think she truly believes that her old-fashioned, racist, homophobic, anything-but-white-Christian-phobic views are totally normal, and she is teetering on the edge of dementia, lives alone in borderline hoarding conditions, worships Glenn Beck and needs a tinfoil hat - so there's no convincing her of anything but her own views, but I still can't help but speak up when she gets going.
She asked, over dinner, if the rest of the family thought that "in heaven, Jesus would make everyone white, because the Bible says we will be made new."
I told her that this was an extremely offensive statement and asked if she thought Jesus was white, or that "white" was code for "default human" and asked why she thought that if heaven is real and is as she imagines, that "beign made new" would mean "everyone is white." I would imagine that "being made new" means being healed of diseases or not needing eyeglasses or hearing aids, etc. It doesn't mean being fvcking whitewashed.
She was a bit taken aback but blazed on down her own path, saying that she had once heard a black man say he wished he wasn't black because he was treated poorly due to his skin color. So her assumption is that every single person in the entire goddamned world that isn't white lies awake dreaming all night of becoming white.
I told her that people like her were the ones perpetuating the racist views that made people like that man (who may or may not have actually existed) suffer poor treatment for something like their skin color. She is so fvcking ignorant - and willfully so - that it makes me want to shake her.
Now my blood pressure is up.
OMG!
Sorry to get you worked up, Interro.
I wonder why she never stopped to think that that man's life was so hard not because his skin is brown, but because of how people treat him due to that color.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes