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Discuss: Being happy...

Being happy does not mean everything is perfect. It is looking through imperfections.

Do you believe this to be true? What about in a relationship (of course after weeding out super douchtastic behaviors)?

Re: Discuss: Being happy...

  • I think that's true.  I'm certainly not perfect, but I'd like to think someone could still be happy with me.  I think everyone can think of something that would make their life "more perfect" (more money, bigger house, smallerass), but most of us are probably happy overall.
    The day I left was just my beginning.
  • I agree. 

    Life is what you make it. Happiness is all about perception.  

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  • I do believe that's true, because perfect only lasts for a moment.  Those moments are great, of course, but they're fleeting. 

    As far as relationships go, certainly no one's perfect.  But that doesn't mean someone can be perfect for you -- you just can't expect them to be without flaws.

    So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.

  • I agree completely, particularly in a relationship.  I know I'm far from perfect, and there are things about G that I don't think are "perfect" but they don't matter in the grand scheme of things.  As long as there is a sold foundation, those little "flaws" really don't matter anymore.
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  • I think happiness is something you choose. I choose to be happy everyday.  Perfect does not mean happy to me. Perfect to me is having enough money to not budget when I go to the grocery store. Happy is having enough money to buy food.

    In relationships I think it is the imperfections that I want someone to love about me. It is what makes me different, It means I am real, and honest. I will take that over perfect any day.

  • Yes I believe this.

    I can't expect perfection from a partner when I know I'm not perfect. Anyone that puts up with me deserves a medal lol

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  • I'm not sure "looking through" is the way I'd word it. Maybe working around or accepting of. 
  • Contentment would be more of the word I use instead of happy, though I would love to be in a relationship with someone with a happy disposition.

    As long as the imperfections are not pulling anyone down, then yes it can be a beautiful mess to work with.  That is our human experiences that make us who we are today.

    I am happy because I finally figured out that I have more control of myself than I originally thought.  LIfe will always have ups and downs but does not mean I have to react but rather respond and make better choices in my daily living.  I don't want to date anyone who has not figured that out yet and for those who desire to never give up making life how they want it to be in a good way.

     

  • imagepdx18:
    I'm not sure "looking through" is the way I'd word it. Maybe working around or accepting of. 

    I agree.  I won't ignore imperfections, but I can accept certain ones.

  • imagemarigoldgirl44:

    I think happiness is something you choose. I choose to be happy everyday.  Perfect does not mean happy to me. Perfect to me is having enough money to not budget when I go to the grocery store. Happy is having enough money to buy food.

    In relationships I think it is the imperfections that I want someone to love about me. It is what makes me different, It means I am real, and honest. I will take that over perfect any day.

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  • My XH wanted me to be perfect.  I tried for 7 years.  It was exhausting
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