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In need of some A10 Nesty luck... (long)
Hi Ladies,
I have a bad feeling that the sh!t is about to hit the fan. Remember how I told you all several weeks ago that EX owed DH roughly $1200? She insisted that she didn't even though DH had given her copies of his payments to SD school as well as EX's payments (reimbursments) to him. EX told him that he needed to go back to January of this year and begin from there & he would see that she did not owe him $1200. So he did & she was right. She doesn't owe him $1200. She owes $2050!!! It's all there in black & white - no denying it.
They agreed that they would email each other the info that they each had by the last day of November (today) in order to sort this whole thing out. I know she's going to flip the he!! out so I'm asking you all to say a prayer, send some majic dust or cross your fingers, toes & arms that she doesn't make this any worse than it has to be & that she puts on her big girl panties & handles it like an adult. DH & I fear that she will try to make our lives a living he!! in the hopes that he'll just tell her to forget about the debt. Last time she asked the amount & he told her she showed up at his office screaming & crying & making wild accusations. It was so bad that DH asked her if she was taking her medication (not a wise thing to ask) & MIL wanted to call the police.
PS - It doesn't help that she's having a run of bad luck lately. She & her boyfriend have broken up & her car broke down at the mall last Wednesday nigth & she had to have it towed to the garage. She doesn't have it back yet & DH & I think it may be b/c she doesn't have the $$ to have it fixed.
FYI - DH has never asked her for the money. She originally asked what she owed & then denied that she owed that much & then asked him to gather all of the info going back to January 2011. He will not be a horrible person & ask her to pay him anything before the new year. He has already told me that he's going to tell her not to worry about making any kind of payment for this past due stuff until after Christmas.
Thanks ladies...
Re: In need of some A10 Nesty luck... (long)
Oh George-Anne, I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this. Thoughts and prayers definitely that this situation will sort itself out peacefully, and that EX can hit a wave of good luck for a change. Maybe that will help her feel less needy and vengeful.
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Yikes! I see this not going so well but I'll send some vibes and prayers anyway.
On a side note: Does the Court order say that each are to pay half for medical bills, etc? In Wisconsin, when they do halfsies like that there is typically a 30 day period for which a party is to notify the other of the incurred charge and then the other party has 30 days to pay.
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Oh wow, she certainly can bring the drama (not that we did not already know that). At least you guys have good enough records to know where everything stands. Being the Excel nerd that I am I would start keeping track of every transaction on a spread sheet, with check numbers and all so you always know where she stands. You could even do it in Google docs, and share it with here, so she can see for herself.
Sorry you are dealing with this, and I will keep my fingers crossed that she does not make a crazy scene again.
Eeeeesh. Have you and Nelson honestly considered speaking to a lawyer about this? Most will do a free consultation to help you determine what your rights are. It just seems like everything with her is getting worse, not better. You are so smart to keep everything documented either way!
The way that their court order is written it says that EX is responsible for the 1st $250 of SD's out of pocket medical expenses the remaining amount is to be divided between them. She says that he owes her $203.55 but after pulling all the records including 2 payments that DH made when he went to the Dr's office w/ SD it turn out that he only owes her $17.28.
It's all well documented & in an Excel spreadsheet & he scanned in his payments to the doctor's office & sent that to her too. We've tried to figure out where she got the $203.55 figure from but it just doesn't add up. ::sigh::
That's exactly what we did.
It's a beautiful, well organized thing. I love Excel.
This exactly!!!!!
We (really he & I agree) have decided not to for the simple fact that we wouldn't take her to court for this. It's simply not worth it. The courts would see it as DH being a bully towards a helpless single mother that's doing all she can. Of course, that's not the case, she's not doing all that he can & she certainly isn't helpless. I'm not trying to sound cold & callouse but she makes very poor finacial decisions & so when things go badly for her (ie. car breaks down) she doesn't have the money to pay for it. She knows that she owes DH b/c she didn't pay him anything for about four months. She told him when she was yelling and out of control about a month and a half ago that no judge would make her pay him back b/c she's a single mom & her grandparents just died (at seperate time about 3 weeks apart). Don't get me wrong I'm very sorry that her grand parents passed away & I know that was hard on her - we sent flowers to both services to let her & SD know that they were in our thoughts & prayers but what does that have to do with not paying DH for 4 months? I just wish she would acknowledge that she owes th e money & they agree to some sort of payment plan.
Sorry this was so long...