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H and I have been having a lot of sexual problems since we got married. Without going into much detail, sex hurts. Which makes me not very interested in it. And makes H afraid to be intimate and being "rejected". We try maybe once a month. We don't even make out because he knows it won't go anywhere.
We tried last night and it was a complete fail. I cried most of the night because it feels like something is missing in our relationship and I'm letting him down. I decided I need to speak with a doctor about it. Because I'm so busy, H called a women's clinic for me. He said it was really embarrassing to try to explain what was going on. The receptionist told him it was the first time a man has called to make an appointment.
The things my poor husband does for me...
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Aw, I'm sorry. That does sound really sucky. Hopefully the people at the clinic will have some ideas.
And kudos to your H for being willing to make that call. Don't think many husbands would be willing to do that. But I suppose if the matter was pressing enough they would.
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oh hun I hope they figure it out and it's an easy solution...like MD said it could be what Blonde went through and it may take some therapy like Smoozer said physically you doing things and even learning some relaxing methods to help you out.
Just because you can't do the actual deed doesn't mean that y'all can't make out and lead to other fun things :P haha
But I can understand how frustrating it is...with both of my pregnancies it has been something I almost detest and poor H...right now I can't do it anyway per doctors orders...I'm sure he'll be happy on Monday if/when my doc says we can
Yes... I went through something very similar... see if you can find a specialist in your area that specializes in vulvodynia... my obgyn didn't know anything and actually made my problem worse and I was put through way more pain for far more months than I should have. If you have ANY questions you can email me at blonde407@aol.com.
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Oh sweetie! I hope everything works out for the better. Are you having any emotional stress (aside from this)? I know someone who went through this, and it wasn't anything physical causing the problem, but seeing someone to talk to and taking up meditation helped her tremendously. I'm NOT saying you shouldn't go to a doctor and a specialist, but rather offering advice if the issue stems from something else.
And your husband is a sweetheart. It must have been extremely uncomfortable.