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I'm a d!ck :(
I have been emailing with a guy from Match for a couple of weeks and have had two decent phone calls with him. I've found him to be pretty kind and intelligent, but I don't know that I've felt any "spark" or anything. I talked to him for a little bit last night, he seems pretty reserved and responsible (not that that's a bad thing) but definately more quiet and reserved than I am. He tells me the following (after I had agreed to meeting for coffee or lunch)....1. he's only had 2 girlfriends in his ENTIRE life (he's 37). The last one only lasted 1 year the other was his wife and they were only together a few years total. 2. He has MS and more often than not, he uses a w/c.
I'm a huge d!ck because those are huge red flags for me.....and I don't know if I go through with the meeting, knowing it's not gonna work and give him false hope, or just bail on it and be a d!ck. I'm leaning towards not going, but sending an email to cancel but I don't know what to say that doesn't sound like I'm a horrible person.
HELP!
Re: I'm a d!ck :(
If the MS and using a w/c is going to be something that bothers you, I just nip in in the bud and say you just don't see yourself moving forward with him. You don't need to explain since it is so early on. Just keep it simple and straight forward.
As a person who is deaf, my stbxh says he no longers wants to be with a deaf person... please do not lead him on. That would makes you more of a horrible person than admitting the truth.
I don't want to sound like I'm discriminating against people with disabilities. I'm actually a social worker who works with people with disabilities. I've seen first hand how difficult being the spouse/significant other can be to someone with significant physical issues can be. I don't know that I would be open to that from the start...
ditto just nip it in the bud.
But are both those issues (the MS and the limited dating) your red flags? is the only dating two people weird???
I have only dated two men (first boyfriend from ages 17-22 and second boyfriend/StbX from ages 25-37)
am I a red flag to other men???? (not that I care about dating at this point...just curious if I'm considered weird or in more PC terms "atypical")
I think the only dating two people is weird because of the length of the relationships. The dating/marriage was no more than 2 years total and the girlfriend was 1 year. I guess I figure by 37, people should have been able to sustain a longer relationship, you know what I mean?
I think I'm plenty weird when it comes to stuff in the dating world! I know my stuff is red flags to others, but I hold out hope that the right person will come along and be cool with my stuff and I will be with his!
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Wheelchair...sorry!