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DD? Really?
Cute.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Re: DD? Really?
The "tee hee, I responded to a sex ad with my ex's photo and address" post.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Thanks! I fear you're in the minority, though!
To be perfectly honest, I do like this board, and I think a lot of the posters are handling themselves incredibly well. There are, of course, some things that make my jaw drop -- but by and large, I think there are a lot of good people here.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I do as well. You always have good insight.
I started to read some of that post before it was DD'ed. Something about wanting to know crazy things others had done for revenge/spite to make herself feel better.
Yeah, I think a lot of the posters here get bad raps because of a few interesting characters. Eh, your latest advice is real without sounding snarky or condescending. Haven't seen you on here lately so I had to comment!
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
That was deleted? Man! I really wanted to read OP's response after I pointed out how stupid she was.
Anyway, I hope she was at least able to get in touch with they guy and tell him what a jerk she is, and that it was all a big joke. Funny.
Was that gmginny's post?
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Thanks, Achase! I really enjoy you, too.
The poster copped to answering an ad soliciting male on male oral sex on Craisglist, posing as her ex. She included his photo and address and told the person to come over right away. When a couple of people pointed out that she crossed a major line, it disappeared.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Yes, indeed!
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I appreciate it. I check in over here a lot, though I don't post super-frequently. Work's crazy, so I often don't have the time to get super involved. Also, I sometimes feel weird about contributing because my situation's so different from many of the regulars here, and I don't want to seem insensitive.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
:::rubs hands together::::
So what is your story?? Sorry, being nosy
Feel free not to answer!
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5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I'm wondering also. Now you have to spill it.
It's fine, I don't mind. It's nothing scandalous at all. We just stopped working as a couple. It was a gradual growing apart, the sex stopped, and we were essentially just really cool roommates. We had fundamental personality differences -- that initially attracted us to one another -- that became too great to overcome. I initiated the separation and asked for the divorce, but it was relatively mutual. We both knew we couldn't make the other happy, so we decided to cut our losses before resentment and anger set in.
We're still close; he feels like family, like a sibling. We talk frequently, and we'll grab lunch about once a week. Once we stopped being under the weight of a dying relationship, we got back to enjoying one another as people. He gets along with my boyfriend and is legitimately happy for us. All's well that ends well. It's been refreshing, and I consider myself so, so, so lucky.
When I see the various kinds of hell that a lot of the women here have been through, I hesitate to share much about myself, or say if I'm having a sad day, because I do realize that I have it pretty good. I don't want to be that *** who's all woe is me when everyone else in the room suffered a whole lot more.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Flame away here ladies....but damn, doesn't anyone find this funny? It certainly made me laugh! Not that I would ever do it, but come on, it's funny stuff! And at the same time I wonder how someone would ever think up such a scheme.
if You dont mind sharing, could you expand upon what I bolded? Thanks
It does sound like a good situation, but any loss is still a loss. What some of us went through doesn't diminish your story or circumstances at all. Just because some situations are more extreme than others doesn't give anyone the right to downplay what others have gone through.
I'm not a stick in the mud by any means; I have a great sense of humor and I love to laugh. Yes, I think the idea of this is really funny. It's the fact that she actually did it that is alarming.
Right, I agree. I would fantasize about doing that, but I wouldn't actually go through with it. And not just because I'd worry about getting into trouble in some way, but just because I'd want to be the bigger person.
I agree that it's alarming, hence my wondering how she even thought it up. I think I'm laughing in a kind of...this would make for a hilarious sitcom episode way.
I agree that it's alarming, hence my wondering how she even thought it up. I think I'm laughing in a kind of...this would make for a hilarious sitcom episode way.
After your reply to my original post, I emailed the guy to tell him not to come and fessed up so nothing happened. Yes, it was pretty stupid. I only DD'ed b/c some a$$hole decided to C&P to Married Life
Agreed. This isn't the (insert name of any of the numerous hyper-sensitive boards from TB here) board.
Maybe I don't speak for everyone, but I appreciate advice from those who have good advice to give, no matter their individual circumstances. Kuus has never divorced, but she's here all the time, and she gives great advice.
Probably the only reason why the OWs tires are still in tact........ (she was a friend of mine when she had the affair with STBX, so I blame her too)
I'm glad, too.
Someone asked me to expand on the various personality differences. To boil it down to its simplest terms, he's a definite homebody, and I'm super social. It sounds trivial, but it ended up being anything but. When we first got married and moved here, neither one of us knew very many people, and he was content to stay in, watch TV, play video games, and I grew very restless and depressed. As we got to know people, I wanted to be out and about, and got a lot happier. He, however, suffered. Often, when he'd join, he was unhappy. It all just sort of escalated over the course of years, and it got to the point where we barely saw one another. I suggested counseling several times, but he wasn't really amenable to it. We just kept growing apart, and it got to the point where it wasn't fixable.
In May of 2010, I moved out. A friend of mine was returning to Los Angeles to spend the summer with her family, so I house sat for her for a few months. At that point the ex and I decided that me moving back wasn't the right thing, so I got an apartment. We did finally do some counseling, which made it even more clear that we were making the right decision. We were lazy about the paperwork, though, so we didn't file until late spring, and the divorce was final in early October, a day after what would have been our seventh anniversary.
That's it, in a nutshell. I'm happy to answer other questions or elaborate on anything, if anyone wants more info.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
ITA. Just because yours wasn't filled with drama doesn't mean you not allowed to feel the way the rest of us do. Post away!
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
OMG I missed a lot this morning! This could quite possibly be the funniest thing I've ever heard.. LOL! I love it! (Of course its a terrible lapse in judgment and a bad idea...blah blah blah.. but come on.. its FUNNY AS HELL!!!!
Thinking about doing it = funny as hell
Actually doing it = cause for concern
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Thank you for responding. This was somewhat of a problem in my marriage, albeit it was one of several problems. I seriously should make a list so I don't repeat the same problems....