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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
I would just like to point out (rebound related)
...that everyone who gets jumped on for getting into another relationship quickly after ending one should not feel as terrible as they are often made to feel. Lots of people do this, and are currently (and I'm assuming happily) married to that person.
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/60750874.aspx
Caveat: I'm not defending any particular way of doing things, just saying that OMG OMG OMG OMG YOU'RE REBOUNDING IT'S GOING TO GO DOWN IN FLAMES is sometimes a bit of an overstatement.
Sometimes.
For some people.
That is all. Goodbye for today.
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Re: I would just like to point out (rebound related)
One-year dating relationship =/= multiple years poured into a marriage that may or may not have produced children. I started dating BF a couple of weeks after I broke up with XBF. I don't consider it a rebound since I didn't have a ton of emotions wrapped up in it.
But, yeah, sometimes it works out. Sometimes it goes down in flames. Sometimes I fart and it doesn't smell. Every situation is different.
Well said!
I agree though. Not all situations are the same. It's just up to what you're ready for and what's best for the individual.
The thing that's funny to me is that most relationships do not work out, whether they are rebound or not. If people decided to get into relationships (or not) based on the likelihood that they would work out, no one would ever get into a relationship.
It seems like when a "rebound" relationship ends people get all excited about pointing out how it was destined to end because it was a rebound. But, when a non-rebound relationship ends, people don't get all up in arms at all.
yeaaaaaaaah. this ma point.
LOL. Not sure I was talking about you, but okay.
I thought some things about this post would be obvious, but I guess I'll spell them out.
1. Obviously a 3, 5, 7+ marriage is different from a >1 or 2-year relationship. Obviously.
2. Obviously your new relationship is in trouble if you're not over your ex.
3. Obviously your new relationship is in trouble if you have serious self-esteem or co-dependency issues, etc.
I said this was true for some people. Obviously none of the above would fall into that category. Jesus.
Sorry, diamonds but I think 2,3 rule you out of this exception. Felt the need to spell this one out too. The point of a new relationship is NOT to help you get over your last one.
Thanks, Only for clarifying.
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O thanks. Glad you guys know everything and can predict the future. Good to know we have so many psychics on this board.
Look, I know how you feel. You do know your life better than any of us do. But we can't help but respond in a way that makes sense based on what you've told us here.
I have no idea if it's going to work out with your BF, but I think you were the one posting about possibly getting back together with your H, right? That situation alone makes me think that it's probably not going to work out with either one of them. But that's just my humble opinion.