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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Def Starting Over
Hello. I am currently seperated from my wife. To keep it short I discovered her infidelity and massive efforts to keep it hidden from me 4 months ago. I still seem to be carrying around a lot of resentment and anger towards her and the jersey shore tool that she is with (same guy she was having an affair with). I have been reading posts on here for a couple weeks and this seems like a decent place for me to vent or seek advice.
Also since I started reading posts I havent noticed any other guys on here...is this 100% women? If that is the case I dont want to rock the boat with my over the top male opinions. I can go back into hiding and just read if that is the case....LOL.
Re: Def Starting Over
We have one regular on this board, his sn starts with "Jm" I think and some numbers.
Welcome to the board, sometimes its nice to see it from the male perspective and to have some guys around to ask some questions of (Jm, I am thinking of the peeing after sex post that I still can't get out of my head!)
Welcome! We do have a couple male posters here, but they post rather infrequently. It's nice to have a male opinion, though.
There's a website that people usually recommend for those who have been cheated on--I think it's called survivinginfidelity101 or something like that, although when I google it, nothing of the sort comes up. Maybe someone else can chime in with that website to help you out!
This!
It's survivinginfidelity.com and it has really helped me going through all of this crap!
Sorry and welcome.
Many of us have been or are dealing with infidelity, and all that comes with it. It does get better!
Welcome. Let me first to congratulate on your name Champ Kind...Ron Burgundy is one of my favorite flicks.
As others have said sorry you are here but you will find this site to be helpful. I typically post or reply on here weekly but havent lately because I have been on vacation and typically I am only on here when I am at work...lol.
My exwife also had an affair and stooped to unimaginable lows to hide if from me. Your resentment is normal and will get better.
When I first signed up for TN I went guns blazing..but I quickly realized what guys might find hilarious comes across as being a douche..so keep that in mind...hahaha. Basically I wasnt as funny as I thought I was.
Also there are some women on here that will flame your post or replies simply because you are a man...these women are in the extreme minority. 98% of the women on here are supportive, smart, witty, and can relate to your situatuion.
Hearing womens views on divorce, dating, and yes sex has been huge for me and helped me a great deal. Hope it helps you too and glad you signed up.
Ugh.. so sorry you are dealing with this too. Unfortunately infedility is extremely common and most of us here know exactly what you're going through. I agree with PP's about that website.. it helped me too.
My stbx tried cheating on me with my best friend 6 yrs ago ...in my own house, all while I was home. This was after we had been married not even 1 yr! But, said BFF just told me about this last year AFTER I found out about many other instances in which he lied and went behind my back to sleep with other women. Its disgusting and I now have a lot of trust issues and for some reason find myself always falling for the liars/cheaters...but its nothing a lot of self-help and therapy can't fix. ..oh and this board helps a lot too!!
Sorry you've wound up here, but welcome.
:::batting eyelashes::::
Aww, shucks! Why, thanks, JM!
To OP: Hello there! As JM mentioned, the majority of us are women on this board but I, for one, really welcome a male opinion. So please stick around! Sorry you are in this situation; my XH cheated on me too so I know your pain. Feel free to post/vent away!
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I hope you stick around here. Another site that may be helpful is www.survivinginfidelity.com Good luck!
welcome to the board but sorry about the situation. It's kind of a hard board to welcome people to, it's not like a travel board.
I have the sense of humor of a 13 year old boy so your opinions/humor will most likely be understood by me if htat's any help lol
Just speaking from the heart Dmarie!! How was that for insane cheesiness? Hahahahahahaha
I'll echo all the PP's and say that while I'm sorry your circumstances are completely sucky, we're glad to have you here. I'm one of the 98% of women that JM referred to
Stick around!
This exactly. Hope to see you posting on here!